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that it ended up in the front lobby of my high school. Someone at my school didn't like that. And the fact that it was my name that was ripped off made it clear that it was a personal attack.
    Haters are just another incarnation of bullies. And I always find that the easiest way to get bullies to stop bullying you is to get to know them and befriend them. I knew that there was a reason for their anger towards me, and usually it's because they were dimwitted, jealous, and/or came from a broken family. A lot of the bullies had parents who were divorced. This left them with an alpha male attitude, because they grew up without loving parents to coddle them. They learned to fend for themselves and probably held much anger towards society for not giving them a better life. Without the proper guidance, this usually led them to express their anger in displays of dominance and strength in order to gain validation from others.
    And then there are the bullies who have parents who spoil them. These are usually wimps in a real life fight, but their snobbish and condescending attitude towards others is no different from physical bullying. These are the kids who call people derogatory names and get away with it, because they don’t receive retaliation for it. Usually it’s when they themselves get knocked down a few pegs, do they ever stop their bullying.
    Thus, most of the battle is won by getting to know your enemy. By relating to people, you learn to speak to them in a way that makes them want to be your friend rather than your enemy. This is why I had to be a chameleon in order to befriend the people in the different groups.
    Sometimes, to stop the haters, you really just have to stop doing what they hate you for. At a young age, I used to brush off criticism for my work, because I was still egotistical and thought that my work were masterpieces. Eventually, I learned to accept constructive criticism and even welcome it. Criticism helped me grow because it showed me more about what the markets wanted. Now when people offer suggestions and criticism for my products, I listen.
    Nowadays, I don’t have many haters in my life, because I left them with nothing to really hate on. I was once hated for being arrogant and egotistical, but now I try to be humble and modest. I was once hated for showing off my wealth, but now I try to hide my wealth as much as possible. Instead of fighting the haters and giving them more fuel, sometimes it’s better to just take away the fuel and leave them with nothing to hate you for.
     
    Lifehack #12: Know your enemies and know your market.
    Since I was such a big target for bullies, I had to adapt to survive the school system. Knowing how to interact with different people from different backgrounds is the key to good marketing. Your social skills will translate to better sales. And they are especially important if you want to create good business connections.
    I know many programmers, IT technicians, and web developers who are great at what they do. They can arguably code better than I can. But they lack the social skills necessary to create good business connections. There can be a number of reasons for this. They are sometimes condescending, and they cannot relate with the common man. They see regular people as inferior for not understanding technology, and therefore do not bother interacting with them. Sometimes it’s because they spend so much time at their computers coding that they do not spend enough time socializing with their classmates after school. Sometimes it’s because the parts of their brains that deals with logic and reasoning (important skills required for coding) have been so developed, that it causes the part of their brain that is responsible for socializing to be underdeveloped. And finally, sometimes it’s because programmers don’t have fashion sense, and/or they’re seen as not cool. Thus, their classmates shun them, and they don’t get to socialize even if they try.
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