How to Make Love All Night (and Drive Your Woman Wild) (And Drive a Woman Wild : Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking) by Ph.D. Barbara Keesling Read Free Book Online Page A
Authors: Ph.D. Barbara Keesling
all sounds very weird, or even impossible. I realize that as far as most men are concerned,
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there is no such thing as an orgasm without ejaculation. It’s a package deal, like thunder and lightning, right? Wrong.
This may be hard to believe, but as most sex therapists will confirm, orgasm and ejaculation in males are two separate things .
Yes, they typically occur together, and yes, it feels as though they are a package deal. But the physiological reality is that they are not inseparable. It is possible to have a full orgasm without a simultaneous ejaculation, and therein lies the key to becoming multiorgasmic. Learn how to separate them, and you’re on your way.
I know that this news isn’t mind-boggling for every man who is reading this book right now. Many men have stumbled onto this accidentally. In fact, there may already have been an occasion or two in your life when you actually experienced the sensations of orgasm without having an ejaculation.
At the time, you may not have thought much of it, or you might have found it confusing. Most men who experience this unintentionally think that it’s an accident or some strange quirk. Many worry that something might be wrong with them, but very few men think of it as an experience worth recapturing, let alone perfecting. If you did, you probably wouldn’t be reading this book right now—you’d be out there doing it. But believe me, I know hundreds of men who would gladly tell you that a nonejaculatory orgasm is an experience worth recapturing and worth perfecting. These men will also tell you that if you’ve never had a nonejaculatory orgasm, you need to start. And that’s what you’re going to do, with my help.
56 / BARBARA KEESLING, PH.D.
Meet James, a Multiorgasmic Man
I’d like to introduce you to James, one of several multiorgasmic men you’ll hear about, a man who has been practicing these techniques for almost eight years. I want you to read James’s story first because his method of having multiple orgasms most closely resembles the style we focus on in this book. You may not necessarily have intercourse for the same length of time as James does, but the techniques you use will not differ significantly.
When James and his partner Sharon make love, he typically takes ten minutes or more before he has an orgasm. He starts intercourse slowly and lets his arousal build. Then the instant before he is about to ejaculate, he thrusts deeply into Sharon and squeezes the muscle that runs from the base of the penis to the area behind his testicles. This allows him to have a full orgasm—including rapid heart rate, muscle contractions, and that incredible sensation of release— without an ejaculation .
James maintains his erection, continues to make love, and has two to four more orgasms this way. When he wants to stop making love, he has a final orgasm and ejaculates. James is able to do this because he has achieved good control of the pelvic muscles that spasm when a man ejaculates.
James usually lets his partner’s desires guide him. If Sharon wants to have intercourse for a long time, he simply delays his ejaculation until she’s had all she wants. In the meantime, he may have three or four full orgasms. If Sharon wants to make it a shorter evening, James complies happily.
Some
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nights are marathons and some nights are quickies. The important thing is, it’s their decision.
Alan’s Story
Alan used to have one quick orgasm when he made love and then call it a night. Today, however, Alan is a two-orgasm guy. When he is making love with his wife, Alan’s first orgasm tends to come on rather quickly—within five minutes or less. But Alan has learned to contract his PC muscle at just the right moment before his climax, and this completely suppresses his ejaculation. Alan calls this first orgasm his
“dry” orgasm. This is usually his most powerful orgasm, but it is just the
HOW TO MAKE LOVE ALL NIGHT / 55
there is no such thing as an orgasm without ejaculation. It’s a package deal, like thunder and lightning, right? Wrong.
This may be hard to believe, but as most sex therapists will confirm, orgasm and ejaculation in males are two separate things .
Yes, they typically occur together, and yes, it feels as though they are a package deal. But the physiological reality is that they are not inseparable. It is possible to have a full orgasm without a simultaneous ejaculation, and therein lies the key to becoming multiorgasmic. Learn how to separate them, and you’re on your way.
I know that this news isn’t mind-boggling for every man who is reading this book right now. Many men have stumbled onto this accidentally. In fact, there may already have been an occasion or two in your life when you actually experienced the sensations of orgasm without having an ejaculation.
At the time, you may not have thought much of it, or you might have found it confusing. Most men who experience this unintentionally think that it’s an accident or some strange quirk. Many worry that something might be wrong with them, but very few men think of it as an experience worth recapturing, let alone perfecting. If you did, you probably wouldn’t be reading this book right now—you’d be out there doing it. But believe me, I know hundreds of men who would gladly tell you that a nonejaculatory orgasm is an experience worth recapturing and worth perfecting. These men will also tell you that if you’ve never had a nonejaculatory orgasm, you need to start. And that’s what you’re going to do, with my help.
56 / BARBARA KEESLING, PH.D.
Meet James, a Multiorgasmic Man
I’d like to introduce you to James, one of several multiorgasmic men you’ll hear about, a man who has been practicing these techniques for almost eight years. I want you to read James’s story first because his method of having multiple orgasms most closely resembles the style we focus on in this book. You may not necessarily have intercourse for the same length of time as James does, but the techniques you use will not differ significantly.
When James and his partner Sharon make love, he typically takes ten minutes or more before he has an orgasm. He starts intercourse slowly and lets his arousal build. Then the instant before he is about to ejaculate, he thrusts deeply into Sharon and squeezes the muscle that runs from the base of the penis to the area behind his testicles. This allows him to have a full orgasm—including rapid heart rate, muscle contractions, and that incredible sensation of release— without an ejaculation .
James maintains his erection, continues to make love, and has two to four more orgasms this way. When he wants to stop making love, he has a final orgasm and ejaculates. James is able to do this because he has achieved good control of the pelvic muscles that spasm when a man ejaculates.
James usually lets his partner’s desires guide him. If Sharon wants to have intercourse for a long time, he simply delays his ejaculation until she’s had all she wants. In the meantime, he may have three or four full orgasms. If Sharon wants to make it a shorter evening, James complies happily.
Some
HOW TO MAKE LOVE ALL NIGHT / 57
nights are marathons and some nights are quickies. The important thing is, it’s their decision.
Alan’s Story
Alan used to have one quick orgasm when he made love and then call it a night. Today, however, Alan is a two-orgasm guy. When he is making love with his wife, Alan’s first orgasm tends to come on rather quickly—within five minutes or less. But Alan has learned to contract his PC muscle at just the right moment before his climax, and this completely suppresses his ejaculation. Alan calls this first orgasm his
“dry” orgasm. This is usually his most powerful orgasm, but it is just the
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