doesnât micromanage the people in his life. Thatâs not being helpful; thatâs being condescending. That is assuming that his own ability to solve problems supersedes that of everyone else.
Believing that you are the only one who can fix things is the height of egotism, the proverbial, âIf you want something done right, just do it yourself.â This mind-set is one of the most damaging opinions you can have. By doing tasks for others, youâre removing their ability to help themselves advance, limiting their growth potential, and imposing your will on them in a way that is not helpful but damaging.
While being helpful is important, trying to be too helpful can go too far. If you are trying to do everything for everyone, youâre not saying, âI want you to succeed.â What you really mean is, âI donât think you can do it.â Itâs an insult wrapped in a facade of kindness. The Alpha is a leader and a motivator but always in the context of letting the people youâre helping blaze their own path.
That applies to us, and this book, as well. We donât think we have all the answers, but we know we have some of them. Weâve discovered certain traits, characteristics, and triggers that can serve as guidelines to help you master the circumstances that dictate your life. And so the purpose of this book is not to solve all your problems for youâitâs to give you the tools to solve them yourself.
Weâll show you the elements that will make you stronger, smarter, and more confident. These attributes will improve how you look, help you at your job, and boost your sex lifeâbut only when you take those lessons and apply them in your own manner. Keep that in mind for everything you learn; you must apply knowledge in a way that works for you.
Â ALPHA TRAIT #2
ConfidentâBut Not Cocky
The previous incarnation of the Alpha was always thought of as cocky. As we already stated, you know the alpha male as the guy who put others down to elevate himself. The redefined Alpha is not characterized by some overt cockiness that is projected to hide deeper insecurities but rather by a true confidence, an honest assessment of his strengths and weaknesses as well as what he can immediately achieve and what he needs to work on. The true Alpha doesnât need to put others down to feel better. His assessment of self isnât defined by a comparative analysis. Itâs an internal drive that fuels motivation and success.
Therefore, the Alpha elevates others to display his confidence in his ability to share thoughts, ideas, and plans that can positively influence the world around him and the people in it. If you have good ideas, you should share them. If you think you can help people, then you should take action. If you think youâre the right guy for a woman, then you should prove it to her. This is what confidence enablesâtaking action in every form possible. But that action should never be used to denigrate another individual. When you accept who you are and appreciate who you can be, your confidence immediately becomes much more genuine, your insecurities become less potent, you create more control, and you experience more success.
Â ALPHA TRAIT #3
VainâBut Not Conceited
Listen, there should be an understanding that good-looking people can go a little farther in this world. Itâs not a hard-line rule, but it is a general observation that has been proven over and over again. English researchers found that men who are rated as more attractive also happen to make more money in their jobs and have higher positions. This is just a correlation, but itâs not the only study that has recognized the relationship.
A little bit of vanity is a good thing because itâs really just a manifestation of wanting to take care of yourself. When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you exude an energy that improves your