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    Feeling terrified, I pulled slightly free, then leaned over and removed the rope from a nearby desk drawer. I held it in my hand and, quaking, managed to ask her, “Would you do me a favor?” She looked at me with a distinctly guarded expression and asked what the favor was. I was barely able to stammer out, “Would you please lie down on your stomach and put your hands behind your back?” There couldn’t have been any doubt as to what I intended to do to her once she did that.
    A very long moment of silence passed while she scrutinized my face, then she said, rather cheerfully, “OK.” There was absolutely no doubt that, as I tied her up, I was much, much more scared than she was.
    Well, we got through that evening without any major problems. In the morning, she was still there, looking at me with a smile — and perhaps even a bit of a smirk. Rope became a regular part of our sex life after that, and I often thought how fortunate I was to find such a woman, who managed to so completely conceal her craziness or desperation (I never did figure out which it was), on my very first try.
Master, you were always good to me.
     
    During this time, I discovered that adult magazines devoted to something called “bondage” existed. It took a lot for me to fight down my guilt and fear in order to enter the adult bookstores and look at them, but I did. I had to. Some of these magazines even had “how to” articles in them, and the techniques they described really worked! Furthermore, they recommended consulting military hand-to-hand combat manuals. This was something our government had studied? Unbelievable!
    More weirdness. That lady and I separated after a few months. What stunned me was that the next woman I dated also liked being tied up during sex.
    And so did the next woman. She, in fact, would ask me to tie her up if it had been a while since I’d last done that. She even went so far as to suggest how I could tie her up better! I took the extraordinary step of letting her tie me up a few times.
    Clearly, I had to do some more thinking about this whole bondage thing. I had now batted three for three in meeting apparently mentally healthy, normal women who enjoyed being tied up during sex. Either this meant that there were a lot more “sick” women in the world than I had imagined, or that my thinking was somehow off regarding this matter. Things just weren’t adding up, and I still felt worried as hell. It didn’t help that the next woman I dated absolutely refused to have anything to do with bondage.
    Relief. The turning point came in the fall of 1973. Playboy magazine, in its “Advisor” section, had a question to the effect of: Dear Playboy, My boyfriend wants me to tie him up. What should I do about that? I expected that, like “The Sensuous Woman,” their answer would be something like “get rid of him, fast.”
    Instead, to my utter shock, they started talking about what lengths of rope worked best, and giving tips on how to tie him, and suggestions on what to do after he was tied. They went on to mention that more information could be found in a book called “The Joy of Sex” by Dr. Alex Comfort.
    Bondage was acceptable to a mainstream resource like Playboy ? I could do this, could be interested in this, and still be regarded as a mentally healthy person? I wasn’t somebody that I had to keep an eye on? I can’t describe the relief that flooded over me when I read that section. I literally felt that I had been re-admitted to the human race.
Remember, one sign of good SM is that after the session is over, both parties would like to do that same session again.
     
    It was still a struggle. I found a copy of “The Joy of Sex” in a nearby mainstream bookstore (of all places!) but I had to come back to the store to look through it a dozen times or so before I actually worked up enough courage to buy it. (If the clerks felt annoyed by my repeated visits, they didn’t show it — and I’m