make a lot of casserole-type dishes, which arenât very popular in my house.â Cue eye-rolling tic.
Unlike the other cooks I would meet in the project, Shannon did try to plan meals before she hit a grocery store. âMy problem is when Iâm making up the menu for the week. I just run out of ideas and end up cheating by filling up two days with burritos and spaghetti.â By âspaghettiâ she meant a jar of sauce. âOh, yeah, thatâs it. Iâve never made it from scratch. Sauces, that kind of thing, itâs all just kind of beyond me. I buy those or get a seasoning packet.â
Otherwise, a meal to her included a meat-plus-veggie-plus-starch combination. âIâm not very good at cooking meat. Iâm scared to death of uncooked chicken so itâs usually super overdone.â Pork chops are pretty easy, she said, but she usually did the same seasoning every single time, a mix of salt, garlic powder, and pepper. âI try to fit in fish once a week, but it is always a boring night because I really donât know what to do with fish.â
She budgeted about seven hundred dollars a month for groceries and meals out. Given theyâre a family of five, restaurant trips were a rarity. Her big splurge was a sushi place near her house. âAt the beginning of the month, things are good. By the end, the meals get increasingly basic as I try to stick to the budget.â
I asked about her motherâs remark. âOh, my mom.â Her cheeks flushed, a wince flashed across her face. âMy mother started every single meal with a can of soup. She cooked but she never really wanted me in the kitchen, so I didnât learn much. I want to teach my kids to cook when theyâre older, but since I donât really feel like I know what Iâm doing, what am I going to pass on?â Shannon would occasionally make variations on the stuff her mother had served her, such as Parmesan chicken, sweet and sour beef with egg noodles, and tuna casserole, even though she now considered it âold lady food.â
âI am so interested in cooking, but I find it frustrating. I canât look at a recipe and conceptualize how it will taste. I canât figure out what is necessary in a recipe and what can be left out. I wish that I were one of those people who could look at my cupboards and my fridge and just improvise something. Or go to a restaurant and eat something I like and then replicate it at home. I donât feel like I have the skills to do that, you know?â
Shannon had the desire, motivation, and time to cook but felt she lacked the core competencies. Like so many people, she didnât learn to cook from her mother, nor did she learn any cooking skills in school. By contrast, women of her motherâs generation had multiple opportunities to learnâfrom their own mothers and in high school back in the days when home economics enjoyed a more robust place in the curriculum. She struck me as similar to a frustrated aspiring musician who just wanted to get the scales down so that one day she could riff.
DRI
âWelcome to the hood,â Dri said, spreading her arms wide in a welcome as we walked up the neat path to her well-tended apartment building in the cityâs Central District. In theory, this is the âroughâ part of town, but in recent years much of it has been undergoing serious gentrification. When thereâs a Starbucks on a nearby corner, itâs tough to think youâre in a ghetto, even in Seattle.
Vivacious and good-natured, Dri had the air of a nervous comic about her. She kept a smile fixed on her face for almost the entire visit. Dri planned to move soon into a condo she had bought in another part of town. âGood-bye, eight-by-six-foot kitchen!â
Dri was dressed entirely in black, possibly an effort to hide the extra fifty-plus pounds she carried on her tall, sturdy frame. She had recently started hitting