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Authors: Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy
exercise we describe on page 34, or any one of several negotiation checklists available on-line, as a jumping-off point.
Newsgroups and Bulletin Boards arc environments in which people can post messages which everybody can read,
just like a bulletin board on which people could tack up notes. The best-known newsgroup environment is called Usenet, and offers tens of thousands of groups for every interest, including yours. Some newsgroups are "moderated," which means that someone keeps an eye on what's posted there to keep out unsolicited advertisements (known as "spam"), insulting or haranguing posts (known as "flames"), and off-topic discussion. Other groups are unmoderated, and have more of a free-for-all spirit. Some people prefer moderated groups for their relative calmness, others prefer the uncensored chaos or unmoderated groups.
People who post in newsgroups and bulletin boards are often longtime players with lots of experience to share, and a generous willingness to share it. You may have to comb through a lot of garbage to get to the gems, though. Some people enjoy starting fights in newsgroups by posting inflammatory questions or statements; these are known as "trolls" and are universally loathed. In addition, there's no way to know which newsgroup posters are knowledgeable and which arc not, unless you hang out long enough to get a sense of who seems sensible and experienced... which we recommend that you do.
Private Mailing Lists are a bit like newsgroups in that messages get posted for people to read at their convenience. However, posts to a mailing list get sent to a central entity, which then copies them and sends them to the e-mail addresses of all the subscribers, so you receive them in your inbox along with your other e-mail.
Many mailing lists are regional (some are set up especially to announce local BDSM events), and others are for discussion of specific topics. Some particularly knowledgeable, respected or charismatic leaders in the kink communities maintain private mailing lists for their fans or followers, and some kink-related businesses might have mailing lists which they use to announce new products or special offers. Most mailing lists are at least somewhat moderated, usually by the individual who runs the list.
Mailing lists can be extremely useful in that they can be tailored especially for your particular interest, and some are very specialized indeed: if you like to be spanked by left-handed carpenters of Latino ancestry, there's probably a mailing list for you. If not, you can start one!
What's the Same? What's Different?
The Internet has certainly brought a lot more novice players into the realtime scene than either of us ever imagined possible. Your first steps into physical interaction are going to be very similar whether you started with a book, a website, a workshop, or a thought in your head and a hand between your legs. Some things will be less wonderful than you imagined and some will be even more wonderful... you'll probably even discover terrific new things to do that you never even thought of before.
Here are some of the discoveries you may make when you have your first encounter with physical reality:
people. The tops in your fantasies are such good mind-readers, aren't they? Not only do they dominate you in exactly the way that transports you to ecstasy, but they look, dress and sound just as you want them to!
Whether the tops who live in your head were created exclusively by your own fertile imagination, or whether they moved in after you met them on a website, in a magazine, or during a professional domination session, we think it's a safe bet that they don't look or act much like the tops you'll meet in real life. Real tops have love handles, troubles at work, moments of guilt and insecurity, and all the other problems that you, or anybody else, might have. They don't usually look like the tops in magazines or on websites, and the kind of scene they want to do
Newsgroups and Bulletin Boards arc environments in which people can post messages which everybody can read,
just like a bulletin board on which people could tack up notes. The best-known newsgroup environment is called Usenet, and offers tens of thousands of groups for every interest, including yours. Some newsgroups are "moderated," which means that someone keeps an eye on what's posted there to keep out unsolicited advertisements (known as "spam"), insulting or haranguing posts (known as "flames"), and off-topic discussion. Other groups are unmoderated, and have more of a free-for-all spirit. Some people prefer moderated groups for their relative calmness, others prefer the uncensored chaos or unmoderated groups.
People who post in newsgroups and bulletin boards are often longtime players with lots of experience to share, and a generous willingness to share it. You may have to comb through a lot of garbage to get to the gems, though. Some people enjoy starting fights in newsgroups by posting inflammatory questions or statements; these are known as "trolls" and are universally loathed. In addition, there's no way to know which newsgroup posters are knowledgeable and which arc not, unless you hang out long enough to get a sense of who seems sensible and experienced... which we recommend that you do.
Private Mailing Lists are a bit like newsgroups in that messages get posted for people to read at their convenience. However, posts to a mailing list get sent to a central entity, which then copies them and sends them to the e-mail addresses of all the subscribers, so you receive them in your inbox along with your other e-mail.
Many mailing lists are regional (some are set up especially to announce local BDSM events), and others are for discussion of specific topics. Some particularly knowledgeable, respected or charismatic leaders in the kink communities maintain private mailing lists for their fans or followers, and some kink-related businesses might have mailing lists which they use to announce new products or special offers. Most mailing lists are at least somewhat moderated, usually by the individual who runs the list.
Mailing lists can be extremely useful in that they can be tailored especially for your particular interest, and some are very specialized indeed: if you like to be spanked by left-handed carpenters of Latino ancestry, there's probably a mailing list for you. If not, you can start one!
What's the Same? What's Different?
The Internet has certainly brought a lot more novice players into the realtime scene than either of us ever imagined possible. Your first steps into physical interaction are going to be very similar whether you started with a book, a website, a workshop, or a thought in your head and a hand between your legs. Some things will be less wonderful than you imagined and some will be even more wonderful... you'll probably even discover terrific new things to do that you never even thought of before.
Here are some of the discoveries you may make when you have your first encounter with physical reality:
people. The tops in your fantasies are such good mind-readers, aren't they? Not only do they dominate you in exactly the way that transports you to ecstasy, but they look, dress and sound just as you want them to!
Whether the tops who live in your head were created exclusively by your own fertile imagination, or whether they moved in after you met them on a website, in a magazine, or during a professional domination session, we think it's a safe bet that they don't look or act much like the tops you'll meet in real life. Real tops have love handles, troubles at work, moments of guilt and insecurity, and all the other problems that you, or anybody else, might have. They don't usually look like the tops in magazines or on websites, and the kind of scene they want to do
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