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it’s causing them pain?
    Lack of lubrication also affects women in other ways. It is oneof the most common causes of sexual dysfunction in women. If you’re too dry, you’ll never have an orgasm because your clitoris will not be able to get the stimulation it needs. It just gets dry, painful friction instead. In addition, dryness can lead to vaginal irritation, vaginal infections, and urinary tract infections, none of which are good for your health—or your sex life.
    Vaginal dryness can be caused by genetic factors and by hormones, especially during pregnancy, childbirth, and nursing. During perimenopause (the time just before menopause starts) and menopause, natural lubrication decreases as well. Dryness can also be caused by emotional stress, unresolved issues between you and your partner, certain medications (such as some antihistamines, antidepressants, and anti-anxiety drugs), and use of personal-care products such as bubble bath, scented soaps and lotions, and douching, all of which can disrupt the natural chemistry of the vagina.
    Women think that they have to endure this extremely common situation, but there is no reason to suffer. If you’re not getting wet enough, take action! Luckily, a woman’s lubrication problem is almost always easy and inexpensive to remedy. Estrogen is one form, but it’s not preferred. Although estrogen can help ease vaginal dryness, lots of women don’t want to use hormone-based treatments because they are worried about the sometimes potent side effects of these treatments, especially after menopause. (The risk of these possible effects must, of course, be discussed with your gynecologist.)
    The easiest solution to vaginal dryness is to use a high-quality lubricant, both for sex and to ease day-to-day dryness. Remember, though, that any type of personal lubricant can interfere withsperm and make it a lot harder to get pregnant. If you are trying to get pregnant, you may want to use natural lubricants such as canola oil or egg whites. Here are some tips for resolving dryness:
Look for water-based lubricants, like the well-known K-Y Jelly (or other brands like Astroglide). If the brand you bought doesn’t work well—some can dry out quickly or might not be slippery enough for you—try a different one.
If your partner uses latex condoms, avoid all oil-based lubricants, as oil can wreak havoc on latex, weakening the condom and causing leaks or even breakage. Oil-based lubricants can also stain and be difficult to wash off. This means that petroleum jelly, mineral oil (such as baby oil), most hand lotions or body creams, and Marlon Brando’s favorite (butter) in the infamous Last Tango in Paris are off the list.
Speaking of condoms, look for lubricated brands. They can help a lot, too. Don’t be shy about needing them. Incorporate their use into your sex play and foreplay with your partner. For example, you can sweetly tease your partner by opening the packet very slowly and continue with a teasing manner by even more slowly helping him to put it on properly.
    Here are two other tips for communicating with your partner about this:
Speak up if lubrication becomes an issue. It’s totally normal.
Know what’s right for your needs. Keep a container of lube near the bed, and don’t be shy about using it. Most womensay they want more lubrication rather than less. Needing this kind of product is completely normal and nothing to be ashamed about. After all, if more lubrication will help you orgasm, you’ll enjoy sex more and probably want to have it more, too. Better sex leads to more sex!
    Lubricating Warming Gel to Slow Down Men and Speed Up Women
    So many men (and women) come to me frustrated about their or their partner’s premature ejaculation problems that I decided to create an over-the-counter lubrication gel, called PreBoost Lubricating Warming Gel, to address both of their needs simultaneously ( www.preboost.com ). The goal is to help men who only last a short time to last