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follow an equally linear path.
    Of course, this model bears little resemblance to anyone’s real experience. (In fact, if you’re reading this book, you’ve already strayed far from the path.) Real sexual response develops individually (and messily!) over a lifetime—it doesn’t ratchet through one neat stage after another.
I had a rough time trying to figure out who I was during my adolescence…. I’m just glad that an eating disorder, shagging some guys, and some experimentation with drugs helped me figure it all out. As I am only 25, I still have a few major life changes to go…. But the main one was the realization that I am not heterosexual. My sex life increased a zillion percent after that.
    You’ll likely go through many subtle and not so subtle evolutions in sexual response and desire throughout your life. If you’ve come out as lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, queer, or kinky—or all of the above—you’ve already experienced the process of developing your sexuality and gender expression from the inside, rather than from others’ expectations.
I am very proud of the fact that since I stopped fucking men, I went from a girl who spreads her legs and waits for it to someone very active and very top!
    Many women say sex gets better and better as they come to know and accept themselves. The more you explore your sexuality—without judgment—the richer your sense of yourself as a sexual being.
MTF Prostate = G-Spot
My partner and I recently started reading The Whole Lesbian Sex Book together and find it interesting and useful so far. One sentence caught my attention and got me to make a connection I hadn’t thought of so I decided to pass it along.
As almost an aside you wrote that male-to-female transsexuals (pre- and post-op) can enjoy prostate stimulation. 14 Having always thought of myself as female, the fact that the prostate is not removed during gender reassignment surgery always seemed somehow unfair (like some vestigial male anatomy left there to taunt me). But as I looked again at the little sentence in the book, I realized there was something wrong.
After surgery I read a lot about anatomy. I remembered reading that, while I still do have a prostate,the vagina is now between the prostate and the rectal wall.This is important because if my doctor ever does a prostate exam, she won’t find anything using the usual procedure. She will actually need to find my prostate by feeling through the vaginal wall.
Suddenly, it all came together—since my gender reassignment surgery, the prostate is in about the same position and should function very much like a G-spot. Cool.
I’ve mentioned this to my partner, and I am looking forward to her helping me test my theory.
I love being who I am now as a sexual being—everything, all my 42 years—adds up to the moment. Tough-assed femme to the core who needs the tender as much as she needs the slam and fury. I own all aspects of me now in ways I never dreamed possible. And I feel like I’m gonna rock it that much more every year that I’m on the planet. I like to take long steps in tall heels. That’s my sexuality.
    Gender Transition
    How does the process of gender transition inform sexual response?
    Trans-Health (“the online magazine of health and fitness for transsexual and transgendered people”) surveyed its readers on the subject of trans sexuality in 2001. 15 Only about 30 readers responded to the survey questions; yet even among this small group, there is a range of sexual interests and concerns. A few identified their gender as “other”; the rest were evenly split between male-to-female (MTF) and female-to-male (FTM) transsexuals. Half “expressed some degree of sexual fluidity; their interests had changed since transition, occasionally several times.” Nearly all the MTFs said they wanted to experience vaginal penetration. Nearly all the FTMs expressed a desire to “put their cocks in other boys’ bottoms.”
    Many had transgendered