werenât about to stick around until he did.
The older I got, the more I realized that the generations who passed before us were just as screwed up. Though they criticized and judged our every move, theyâd also indulged in alcohol abuse, domestic violence and infidelity â my dad more than most. If anything, the one thing that had changed was that there was less hiding it.
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The one person Iâll never forget from my childhood is Mr. Duhon, Deweyâs dad.
Mr. Duhon worried terribly over his son from the moment his boy was born. And for years, the worries were justified; the trials and terrors of toddlers, the daring dangers of youth. Even the quirky quests of adolescence were very upsetting to him; us borrowing his car without permission or licenses, and so on.
Then Dewey grew up. He was all done jumping from roofs and eating hard candy while lying on the couch. But his dad still couldnât adapt. Whether it was the years of conditioning, or his own internal wiring â or a combination of the two â he just couldnât let his guard down. He was a bundle of nerves.
For as long as I knew him, I thought the manâs twitchiness was no more than his poor attempt at humor. Years went by before I realized he wasnât kidding at all. He was always overly concerned, without being able to conceal his fears.
Once, the old man sprinkled rat poison under a porch that stood no more than a foot off the ground. When Dewey and I returned home from school, his father was frantic. âHave you boys been playing under the porch?â he asked, as Dewey and I walked up the driveway.
âHuh?â Dewey grunted.
âHave you eaten any of the white powder under the porch?â he asked, his voice high-pitched and anxious.
Dewey just walked away, with my grinning face in tow.
The old man called out behind us. âBecause itâs rat poisonâ¦â
We never looked back.
âYou know that holly berries are poisonous, tooâ¦right?â
I thought I was going to pee my pants from laughing so hard. âItâs not funny,â Dewey said and slammed the door behind us.
But it was funny. The best, oddly enough, was the morning Mr. Duhon buried his mother.
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After a life filled with shared misery, Deweyâs grandmother gasped her final complaint and left the world bawling as loud as she had coming in. âSheâs no longer suffering,â Father Grossi sighed. The young priest ran his hand across her wrinkled face and closed her distant eyes on his way.
âSure,â the family mumbled under its breath, âand neither are we.â
At fifteen, I was honored with being chosen a pallbearer. It was my first assignment as such and I welcomed the opportunity to help my best friend.
It was a cold morning when Aldina Duhon â or Grandma â was laid to rest. Dewey, his father, and his Vovo â Deweyâs other grandmother, the Portuguese one â swung by to pick me up. Dewey gestured his hello and then smiled wide, motioning his eyes over the front seat toward his strangely clad father. In one quick moment, I took it all in: Vovo was snoring like a bear. Mr. Duhon, however, was awake and ridiculously out of style. He wore a brown corduroy sports jacket, one size too small, over a white button down shirt. The slender Western rope tie matched perfectly with a pair of black snakeskin boots. To top it off, a belt buckle the size of a hubcap reading, âIf It Ainât Country, It Ainât Music,â held up a faded pair of blue khaki slacks. He smelled of cheap cologne and he was smiling.
I nodded and returned the smile. âMorninâ, Mr. Duhon,â I said and then glanced back at Dewey. My friend winked. I choked on the laugher that clawed to break free. âThis oughta be one hell of a funeral,â I whispered to Dewey.
He grinned. âYou have no idea.â
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