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She read out a long report that Montse and I suffered in silence. According to the teacher, Arnau was a fidgety child (she actually used the word âhyperactiveâ) who foundit hard to concentrate because he spent the whole time chatting to his friends and winding the girls up. His interest in football, and in Barça in particular, was verging on an obsession, she added, as you could see at playtime when he found it impossible to interact with the girls because all he ever wanted to do was play football.
âYou must realize that if Arnau continues in this vein he will be facing failure in life,â she warned, looking as severe as a judge delivering a death sentence.
Arnau is five years old. At home he is a loving, communicative child, as they say nowadays, and, like most kids his age, rather mischievous. At the annual meet-the-teachers session with the other parents at the start of term, the teacher had lectured us on the dangers of television, video games, football and Barbie dolls, that, according to her, transformed girls into anorexic adolescents first, and sex objects second. At the time, Montse and I felt sheâd laid it on rather thickly, but the majority of parents were in agreement and applauded.
âBut what is Arnau doing exactly? Does he hit other children? Does he break things? Does he show a lack of respect towards you?â I asked.
âHe never sits still and spends the whole time chatting. And sometimes uses swear words,â said the schoolmistress in a hushed voice. âObviously, children normally pick up swear words at homeâ¦â she added pitilessly.
I looked down, shamefaced, and Montse remained silent. I initially interpreted her silence as an act of contrition, as implicit acceptance that we had failed as parents and had no idea how to bring up our son. I was wrong. When I looked up and saw the expression on my wifeâs face, I realized Montse was so angry that her silence was caused by the effort she was making to stop herself going for the teacherâs jugular.
âSo what do you suggest?â Montse asked curtly, not returning the smile of commiseration the teacher had given us when she finished her little speech.
Her advice was to ban Arnau from playing football and to give him a course of homeopathic medication. Many children in the class are already taking some, she said. The other option was to start on Bach flower remedies that worked extremely well.
Iâd been shocked to hear that Arnau ran the risk of becoming an illiterate, foul-mouthed, male chauvinist piglet, and was at a loss for words. Montse, who is feistier, thanked the teacher dryly and reminded her she was a professional psychologist and that, in her view, Arnauâs behaviour wasnât abnormal in the slightest. In any case, she would take her remarks on board, she added, though she didnât feel it necessary either to have recourse to medication or to ban him from playing football.
âYou are his parents. You must make these decisions,â said the teacher, raising her eyebrows, with a knowing smile that meant we were to blame for Arnauâs problems and she was washing her hands of the whole business.
âIndeed,â Montse retorted as she got up. âMy husband and I will do whatever we think necessary. Thank you for your concern.â
âThatâs a stupid teacher, if ever there was one!â Montse grunted as soon as we were outside the school gates.
âYes, I do think she was exaggerating ratherâ¦â
âWhat does she mean when she says Arnau is hyperactive because he likes playing football? Heâs only five years old, for Christâs sake!â
âAnyway, I think heâs too young to start taking pillsâ¦â
âForget it! I know my son. Thereâs nothing wrong with him.â Montse was beside herself. I suggested going for a coffee, although what my wife
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