the only kid in his Laurelton crowd who didnât have Keds on his feet. And it embarrassed him no end. As a close friend notes, âHis mother would buy his sneakers from a pile at a department store because they were priced cheaper, as opposed to buying him the more expensive Keds, the name brand that everyone wore.â
Through the years certain friends who were aware of the Keds story would tease Bernie about it, especially as he became rich and powerful, and displayed the symptoms of what his friends and employees believed to be an obsessive-compulsive disorder.
âBernie liked things to be done right,â observes the close friend. âHe liked to look nice. He liked expensive shoes and suits, cars and boats and houses. He liked his home to look just right; he wanted his office to look perfectâeverything had to be perfect and in its place. And we used to kid around that he became compulsive about those things because his mother wouldnât buy him Keds when he was a kid like everyone else.â
Later on, though, Bernie was determined to show everyone that he could have all the Keds he ever wanted, and lots more.
Bernie was clearly embarrassed by the way his parents lived and acted. Therefore, few of his friends were ever invited into the Madoff home. The place was off-limits and the household had an air of secrecy about it. Social gatherings and parties in which Bernie was involvedâand he was thought of by most as a popular, friendly, good-looking kidâwere always at the homes of others.
According to Sheila Olin, Elliottâs widow, the mother of Bernieâs best school friend distrusted and therefore disliked the Madoffs. Sheila Olin, a popular and cute girl who was the president of the social and cliquey sorority Phi Delta Gamma during her junior year of high school, asserts,âMy husbandâs mother never wanted Elliott to be friends with Bernie, because she thought his parents werenât honest people. She did not want them to be friends, and she was not happy about it. She thought Bernieâs parents were not owning up to a lot of things they were doing.â
In fact, there were a lot of things about the Madoffs that didnât add up. One such source of constant neighborhood speculation was Ralphâs and Sylviaâs occupations. âIt was always a mystery what Ralph and Sylvia did,â says longtime Bernie friend Joe Kavanau. âThatâs absolutely a fact and itâs kind of weird.â
Ralph told some people he was a plumber, but no one remembers him ever doing any actual plumbing as a way to make a living. Years later he described himself to Bernieâs personal messenger, Bill Nasi, as âa plumber in a pin-striped suit.â
Moreover, on the Madoffsâ 1932 certificate of marriage, the groom mysteriously listed âcreditâ as his occupation, while his bride put down ânone.â
Even Ralph Madoff âs middle initialâthe letter Z âwas a fabrication of sorts. He decided it would be classier to have a middle initial, so he just chose to use the last letter of the alphabet.
Elliott Olinâs mother especially disliked Ralph Madoff. âShe used to say she liked Ralph less than Sylvia,â recalls Sheila Olin, whose husband, a lawyer who specialized in workersâ compensation, died of leukemia in his mid-50s. âElliottâs mother told him many times, âI donât want you being in the Madoff house.â Bernie was at Elliottâs house much more than Elliott was over at Bernieâs. She didnât want Elliott to be friends with Bernie.â
But Elliott, whose father was a lawyer, ignored his motherâs entreaties, and he and Bernie would remain close friends for a number of years.
To add insult to injury, Bernie and Elliott introduced Sondra Madoff, Bernieâs slender and attractive older sister, to Elliottâs cousin, Marvin Wiener, a good-looking young man whose family