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women, or nearly all women who are capable of female ejaculation.
    Some people don’t like the term “female ejaculation,” as the fluids aren’t exact matches for male ejaculation, and it is certainly a different process with different body parts involved. However, we use the term “female ejaculation” because it’s commonly used in the United States and it’s a term that many people are familiar with hearing described as such.
    People vary in regard to how they feel about female ejaculation. Some people enjoy it and feel that female ejaculation is a huge turn-on. Others are uncomfortable with the amount of wetness it creates and may worry about getting their sheets wet (some people have similar concerns with male ejaculation). If you like the wetness, great! And if you’re not a fan of it, you might want to lay a towel down on the bed before you masturbate or have sex. If it’s a little unpredictable when you have sex, and you don’t want to run to the towel closet on the spur of a moment, keep a few towels underneath your bed or in your nightstand for easy reach.
    If you have never experienced female ejaculation, we don’t recommend that you put any extra effort into trying—in spite of the popularity of some books and movies that try to show women how to go about doing this. Here’s why: it’s generally not a good idea to frequently bear down on your pelvic-floor muscles, as it may weaken them. Over time, everyone’s pelvic-floor muscles weaken anyway, and this can lead to problems with incontinence (peeing when one doesn’t mean to pee). Why hasten the process? Rather, if you feel that it is happening, let yourself go there if you want to try it. But we wouldn’t recommend that you strain yourself—or your pelvic-floor muscles— trying to make it happen. There are enough pressures when it comes to sex; why add another one? Instead, try to focus on how your body works and enjoy your experience. People’s sex lives changes over time, anyway, and you may end up experiencing female ejaculation one day without even trying. Stranger things have happened.
    Finally, although chemical analyses of female ejaculate have shown that it is not the same as urine, some women can’t help but wonder if they are peeing (by accident) during sex. If you have concerns about incontinence, for example, if you leak urine when you laugh or cough or if you feel as though you’re often running to the bathroom throughout the day, check in with your healthcare provider. You might also try reducing or eliminating your caffeine intake, as caffeine can cause people to feel as if they frequently need to urinate (it does this by making the bladder muscle spasm).
    PERINEUM
    The perineum is the area between the bottom of a woman’s vaginal entrance and her anus. It’s also called the “taint” (as in, t’ain’t the vagina, t’ain’t the anus) or the “tween” area (as it is “between” those two parts). In medical circles, you will hear it called the perineum. Most women won’t ever hear people talking about their perineum. It’s not a particularly sensitive or erotic spot for most women, although it is for some. More often, it comes into play because women who give birth vaginally may experience natural tearing of their perineum during childbirth or may have this area surgically cut during childbirth during a procedure called an “episiotomy.” This procedure has become more controversial in recent years, and many women choose to talk to their healthcare providers and ask them not to perform an episiotomy unless absolutely necessary, as natural tears may heal better than surgical cuts. If you are pregnant, you may find it helpful to ask your healthcare provider or midwife about their take on episiotomies.
THE FEMALE GENITAL SELF-IMAGE SCALE (FGSIS)
The following items are about how you feel about your own genitals (the vulva and the vagina). The word “vulva” refers to a woman’s external genitals (the parts that