without an eventual ending, no up without a down, no right movement without a left movement. It is the same as the Christian concept of being born into sin.” He pointed behind him to the man on the chart with his seven chakras highlighted in various colors.
“ The baby is innocent, but he or she was born into a world of sin, from a mother that was not perfect and a father who was also not perfect. Thus, inside of her, that baby is the pure seed for a dark side, passed down from one generation to another, if you will. The dark sides are as follows: grief, guilt, unhealthy attachment, shame, illusion, fear, and lies. Grief in a relationship is staying in a relationship due to a fear of being alone. The possibility—the fear of the grief that happens when we end a relationship that is not in our best interest. Guilt is possibly thinking you owe that person something, that you owe them to stay because they’ve done so much for you.” He strolled slowly across the stage.
“ You owe them to stick it out—kind of like maybe a man that introduced his wife to alcohol. They are both drinking far too heavily; it is interrupting their lives in a negative way. Thus, they are alcoholics. He has aided in her becoming one, showed her the door to the addiction. After a few years, he gets clean, but she still remains a drunk. He doesn’t want to be around that anymore, but he doesn’t leave because he takes the blame for her condition. Understand? Moving along.
“ The next is unhealthy attachment. As we discussed earlier, it is the lower level chakra playing into this—your damn dick. You are staying for sex. That is self-explanatory. The next is shame. Feeling ashamed of something you’ve done or haven’t done… see how that ties into guilt but they have special, individual qualities? Next, is illusion—buying into the hype, feeding the illusion of a happy family, playing pretend. That ties into lies, but we can’t miss fear. Fear is being afraid that the person will hurt themselves, or even you, if you leave, or being afraid that you will miss out on something if you let them go.” He paused, previewed the audience and crossed his arms as he pondered.
“W omen sometimes struggle with this one, because if the man is paying their bills, then they are afraid to go because they need the financial help. So, they stay with him.” He shrugged his shoulders. “Now, there are some men like this as well. He is paid dick, basically. It’s fucked up! Us men fall into the fear zone when we don’t want to be in a relationship with a certain woman anymore, but we are afraid she will get another man, and that bothers our ego, so we stay with her, to keep her attached. It is unhealthy, it is sick!
“Those dark s ides are sometimes called demonic forces, but for right now, let’s just call them backward, upside down, unsavory and destructive. I prefer that over calling something black or dark actually. The connotation has always bothered me how things that are richer in pigment are construed as evil, distasteful, dirty. In any case, let’s look at our illuminated side, the part of us that shines and grows with development and nurturing. The positive side of the coin—the polar opposites are happiness, innocence, freedom, pride, acceptance of reality, peace and truth. When someone is sick, spiritually ill, you pour the opposite inside of them. Men and women are opposites. I’m not talking about our minds, personalities and all of that. I am talking about our actual design. Once we get past the neck of a man or woman, things change. Her shoulders are generally smaller, ours are wider. Her breasts jet out, our chest is flat. That is where the morphing into one another begins.
“When you lie next to or on top of one another, you become two puzzle pieces that stick together perfectly. So now, her breasts are pressed against you. Your stomachs are flush with one another, and you are pressing into her as you go further down. Once