The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams Read Free Book Online Page A

a journal to explore your sexual self through the exercises presented in this book. This journal need not be shared with anyone, not even your partner, unless you wish to do so.

    As a child:
What were the attitudes about sexuality and about bodies in your fam-ily as you were growing up?
What was your fi rst sexual experience like? Was it alone or with another person?
How have these experiences in fl uenced your current views of your body and your sexual life?

    As an adult:
At what moments in your life do you recall feeling the most desire or pleasure?
What places, times of day, or partners have aroused you the most?
In what speci fi c ways were these moments different from and similar to those in your life now?

    And now:
In your current life, what things increase or decrease your desire?
If you could create the perfect erotic situation for yourself, what would it look like? (Do not limit your imagination here. Your fantasy life does not need to have any relationship to your present life. There is no greater generator of desire than an active imagination.)

    experiences that we found sexy as we were growing up. Exploring your sexual history will help you discover your individual erotic fingerprint.
    What have you rediscovered about yourself? Can you harness the desires of your past to fuel your present life and relationships? Once you have “found” your desire, whether you felt it in the past or in a real or imagined present, the desire is yours. You can bring that desire into your current life through the power of your imagination. While doing the exercises in this chapter, recreate for

    Exploring your sexual history will help you discover your individual erotic fi ngerprint.

    yourself those specific situations (whether historical fact or future fantasy) that get you hot. You may actually be able to do this in the privacy of your home, but more likely you will need to use your memory and imagination.
    By exploring your erotic fingerprint you’re opening up your intimate past. Our sexual history can be a great erotic resource, but most of us have difficult and even painful memories of our sexual past that can interfere with our satisfaction in the present. Exploring and understanding our past takes the power from these negative memories and reclaims it for our present. We strongly encourage you to explore and share these experiences with a trusted partner, friend, or therapist. If this does not seem possible, try drawing, painting, or writing about these experiences. The more you are able to shed the light of your current mature understanding on the shadows of the past, the less hold these experiences will have on you and the more you can revel in the sexuality of the present.

    According to the Tao, women are energized by beauty. By bringing beauty and sensuality into your everyday life, you expand your desire and your overall sense of joy.
    EVERYDAY EROS
    One of the secrets of desire is that it starts long before we reach the bedroom. Poets the world over have known that the path to lovemaking is as important as the destination. While each woman has her own erotic fingerprint, many of us share certain images and situations that increase our desire. Many women find that increasing the sensual nature of their everyday life helps keep their body alive to their sensual and sexual potential.
    It is important to nurture this aspect of yourself in whatever way you find helpful: wearing clothes that caress your body, smelling candles, flowers, and other scents in the house, listening to sensual music, taking hot baths by candlelight, or eating foods that you find tantalizing. According to the Tao, women are energized by beauty. By bringing beauty and sensuality into your everyday life, you expand your desire and your overall sense of joy.
    Be alive to the erotic possibility of the world around you. Notice the beautiful diversity of bodies all around you. If you are able to look at and appreciate other women’s bodies