but I still live in hope. Things
might improve if I could find a new man who is driven by
sexual desire rather than inhibited by a fear of being too 'open'
– a man who doesn't find my sexual confidence intimidating.
Losing some weight would help me feel confident enough to
throw myself around a bit more too.
My fantasies are very run of the mill and I have done a few
of them – sex in a public place, picking up a stranger, etc. Sex
with a woman was something I considered going to another
city to try once (visit a gay bar maybe?) but I know that most
lesbians are very masculine and therefore not the kind of
women that have turned me on in films. Having said that, I
never look at a very attractive woman and wonder if she's gay,
so I don't think it's something I particularly want to have
happen. I have a very strong libido – just the thought of the
orgasm I'll have is sufficient to make me want to have sex. I'll
often fantasise to help it along, but it will happen anyway. I
write a lot of the things I like into my stories, so it's hard to
pinpoint a particular fantasy – these often arouse me as I write
them. I think the themes tend to be men who are totally hot
for the heroine – who pursue them relentlessly. I know from
my own personal experience that penetration isn't enough for
female orgasm, so I often have the man add stimulation of the
clitoris, or have the woman do it herself as part of the sex. I
also love the thought of penetration with a finger while
receiving oral sex; most of my male characters know to do
this.
Sarah, age 31
Heterosexual
Live-in relationship/marriage
Children
College
Homemaker
West Midlands, UK
I'm turned on by men I can't have! Bad guys, but bad guys who
are respectful to women, such as Tony Soprano from the HBO
television show, Robbie Williams, Colin Farrell (he's so sexy),
men who work outside (they wear riggers and have big rough
hands). Men in suits are OK as long as they are in charge. I
cannot be doing with men who wear make-up or spend time
on their hair.
The best sex I ever had happened a few years ago, I think I
was 22 at the time. Someone at work had been showing me a
lot of attention and being very flirty. He was involved with
someone (he ended up marrying her), but it was like the
forbidden fruit – I wanted what I couldn't have. Anyway, he
gave me a lift home and asked me to call him. I said no, he
knew where I was if he wanted me. Later that night he knocked
on my door and before I had even closed it we were at it. I had
a nightdress on and he lifted it, pulled my panties aside and
fucked me up against my front door. It was passionate, but
rough. His hands were big; he was a lot taller than me and
heavily built. He just knew what to do, exactly where to touch
me and kiss me, and we had the most amazing night. He was
very well-endowed and I felt every single thrust. I had never
had sex other than in the missionary position until that night.
No one had ever gone down on me or entered me from behind.
He pulled my hair when he was behind me and it was such a
turn-on. He opened me up with his fingers and thumbs and
went down on me and I came so hard and fast. He just kept
on going and never stopped, making sure I was enjoying it as
much as him. (I'm getting turned on just remembering this.)
The best thing other than the sex was that he didn't look down
on me afterwards, we both knew it was a one-night thing and
we still get on great now; although I no longer work with him
I see him around occasionally. He's always nice to me and I'll
always think of that night as the best I've ever had. I think if
I was ever tempted to have an a-air it would have to be with
him.
I think my fantasies have stayed the same as when I was
younger. I have romantic fantasies that some big strapping
man is going to sweep me off my feet and then fuck me senseless!
However, my favourite fantasy is to go down on a woman.
I would like to make a woman come with my tongue. I'd know
exactly how and what to do