You Can Be Thin: The Ultimate Programme to End Dieting... Forever by Marisa Peer Read Free Book Online

doing research for this book I came across some studies from Great Ormond Street Hospital about how epileptic children cannot metabolise flour. One of my clients has a daughter with epilepsy and she decided to try her on a flourless diet. The results were very impressive but her daughter Karen hated the exclusion diet. I was talking to the little girl and she said, ‘I can’t eat cakes and muffins like my friends,’ and I replied, ‘Well Karen you can if you want to. You can eat all those things but you don’t want to have fits and to have to wear a crash helmet in school so you have to choose what’s more important to you. What do you want more, to eat the cakes or to not wear the crash helmet and not have fits?’ I know that sounds like a harsh conversation to have with an eight-year-old but it made her feel better, it made her feel like she was choosing to get better rather than having her parents force a diet onto her without her agreement.
    People who don’t smoke don’t say, when offered a cigarette, ‘I can’t’ or ‘I shouldn’t’ or ‘I mustn’t’, they say ‘I don’t smoke’ and it is so easy to refuse something you have chosen not to indulge in. If you don’t take drugs or drink spirits, if someone offers them to you, you say no easily because you don’t want them, there is nothing for you to deny or resist and in saying no to them you are simply stating a fact.
    It’s really important for you to know that you can eat whatever you want to but are choosing not to. Very young children and people who are naturally thin do not think about food all day, they only think about food when they are ready to eat. They have no problem refusing food or leaving some food because they have a mindset that says ‘I can have this whenever I want it and it will always be available for me’ so they often don’t want it. It’s only when you get into the mindset of ‘this is not allowed, I can’t have it, it’s forbidden’ that you want it so much more.
    Sometimes simple changes have the most powerful results. Actively choosing reminds your mind that you do have a choice. You can choose to be in control rather than being controlled by food. By choosing how to communicate with yourself, how to control your thoughts and how to say and think the right things about how you eat and how you exercise, you really can also choose to be thin. Once you know that you can choose to be thinner you can start to understand that every time you eat pizza and chips followed by cake you are choosing to remain overweight. If you choose to eat fruit instead of a dessert you are choosing to become slimmer. As you accept this fact you also accept that you have not failed at dieting and you are not destined to be overweight or ruled by food. You have been making the wrong choices and choosing to believe you just can’t help it, but from now on you can choose not to believe that any more. You have not failed at diets, diets have failed you.

STEP FOUR
    How to Get What You Want
    So how much do you want to be slim and what are you willing to do to look and feel the way you want to look and feel? What are you willing to pay to be a normal size? Whatever your answer is you are probably already paying much more by being overweight. If you want to get thin and stay thin for life you have to make a choice: you can either have a diet that is slightly restrictive and a life that isn’t, or you can have an unrestricted diet and eat whatever you want whenever you want and pay the price by living a life that is restricted because of your weight. Having experienced both the former and the latter, I promise you the former is better in every way. I have worked with thousands of clients who learned my methods and I frequently get letters thanking me for showing them the way. I have never met anyone in my career of twenty plus years who said, ‘I was happier before and I preferred my old eating habits’.
    If eating indiscriminately and