Yes she says Yes and when Dad says No she says No, so whatâs the use of having a mother at all?â
I did not quite agree with Joan that our mother was no use. It might have been so with Joan, for it seemed that as soon as Joan became grown-up (and no one but her and me admitted she was grown-up) Dad took charge of her, to âtrain herâ, as he said.
âThe girl must have training, discipline. Sheâs running wild.â
I wished sometimes that I could get on the other side of things to see the view other people had, especially of Joan, ârunning wildâ. She bit and pinched, of course, as one sister to another, and she got excited and enjoyed herself. How, I wondered, was that âwildâ? I myself found our mother useful chiefly because she was there . If she wasnât in the dining room she was in the kitchen. If she wasnât in the kitchen she was in the wash-house. She was always somewhere. She was also useful because if I asked persistently enough for the best biscuits she almost threw them at me,
âThereâs your whack! Now are you satisfied?â
Sitting in Emily Gullâs kitchen, talking about the dance dress, Joan forgot her sniffling. This day Emily Gull was baking a cake, and ash from her cigarette kept dropping into the bowl.
She screwed up her face.
âWhy worry?â
Her face was brown and wrinkled. Her hair, dyed blue-black, was really grey, and to me it seemed as if she camped rather than lived in her house, and this was proof that she was a gypsy and, when she chose, could take her place on the heath with Petulengro and Jasper and others whose story had been in our School Journal and who had impressed me with their earnest conversation and the way they kept saying, âLife is sweet, brother.â I hadnât thought about whether life was sweet: I merely tasted and swallowed it; but I knew that for some reason Joan wasnât finding much sweetness in it; indeed, I could have said that for Joan at thirteen, life was sour.
The matter of the dance dress was perhaps the sourest part she had tasted. To be given a long purple lacy dance dress (with some of it more holey than lacy) and not to be allowed to dance in it was like being told that because you had feet you must be crippled, or because you were given eyes you must shut them and never look out at the world.
âYou see,â Joan was explaining to Emily Gull, âDad said.â
Dad said was always final, could never be argued against or changed.
âI told him itâs on at the Scottish and Bill Grant will be there, and Nance Murphy and lots of others.â
âAnd what did he say to that?â
Joan frowned.
âHe said, Who does Bill Grant think he is?â
âAnd who does Bill Grant think he is?â
Joan shrugged a donât-care shrug,
(Donât care was made to care,
Donât care was hung,
Donât care was put in jail
And made to hold his tongue!)
put her head on one side so that her blonde hair could fall the way sheâd practised it to fall, and smiled.
âWho in the world,â she said knowingly, âdoes Bill Grant think he is? Iâve no idea. He doesnât interest me one iota .â
She had caught that word from Dad who made it sound impressive.
âNot one iota,â Dad would say.
Before she heard that expression Joan used to say Not a jot , which hadnât half the power and challenge of an iota .
âI suppose youâd better do as he says and not go to the dance,â Emily Gull said mildly, while I marvelled at the calm way Joan accepted from her almost the same words that, spoken by Mum or Dad, would have sent her into a rage. Perhaps when parents said anything to their children they always wrapped up the words in something else that could be felt but not seen?
âDo as he says and donât go.â
If Mum had said that it would have had Joan in tears with Why, why if so-and-so can go why