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and after lovemaking. It should never be forgotten that when it comes to romance, there are few tools available to us more powerful than the kiss. For that reason, you must be mindful of every kiss you give and every kiss you receive. Kisses send messages—especially in romance. Being mindful of your kisses simply means to be aware of the Language that is spoken at all times and to never allow your lips to speak anything other than the truth. And although kissing, just like loving, comes to us instinctively, both benefit greatly from instruction and practice.
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In spite of what your darling mother may have told you, a "fresh" mouth is a good thing. If it sounds remedial to say that your mouth and breath should be clean before kissing, forgive me for stating the obvious. But we've all been in situations where either our partner's breath isn't nearly as desirable as he is, or we can sense that ours isn't. And it's not just breath. Food that has, for some reason, decided to remain outside the mouth, rather than join the rest of the party inside, may leave deleterious leftovers. That rebellious piece of spinach, that flamboyant bit of caviar, or the lone black bean that insists on making a spectacle of itself by adhering to your or his front-most tooth may also be a culprit. It's not the least bit cute and can be a real mood killer.
But bad breath and food stuck in our teeth can happen to the best of us, and when they do, the only way to handle them is with kindness and humor, removing them as quickly as possible. No one should be made to feel badly about being human. On the other hand, if your lover's breath is a bit offensive say something. I know you wouldn't consider kissing somebody who didn't care if he offended you, so help him out. And be gracious when he does the same for you. These little problems are easy to fix and any momentary embarrassment can be quelled with, "And now my dear, you are perfect . . . once again."
The following is a list of tips and suggestions I've picked up from clients on how to remedy or prevent these potential kiss stoppers:
When brushing your teeth, don't forget to brush your tongue and the roof of your mouth. They are the repositories of had-breath germs and must be swept clean. Brushing these areas will keep your breath fresher for much longer.
Collect those little bottles of mouthwash you get in hotels and keep one in every purse. You can also
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
purchase them in grocery and drugstores where they display travel and trial-size products.
Never leave home without mints.
Keep mints in a little box by the side of your bed. They're great for eliminating morning breath.
When one of you eats spicy or strong foods, such as garlic or onion, you both should eat some. The smell isn't nearly as offensive when you've both consumed the same food, as your chemistries are better matched.
Parsley is a great odor eater, so if it arrives as a garnish on your plate at a restaurant, take advantage of it. And don't forget to pick up a bunch at the grocery store when you're doing the cooking.
If your lover's breath doesn't smell fresh, take a mint for yourself, and then offer one to him.
Dental tape is three times more effective than dental floss. Keep a roll in your purse. If you're going to be somewhere without a purse, put a piece of tape in your bra or pocket. (Never use it while other people are watching.)
An Oolit is a fairly new little gadget. It is a flexible, serrated plastic strip, used to scrape the entire tongue in order to remove odor-causing bacteria that remains on the tongue after brushing. You'll be amazed to find out what lingers there.
Make a deal with your lover right from the get-go to do a quick check of each other's teeth upon completion of your meals for food that doesn't belong there.
Delicately touch your napkin to the sides of your mouth after every few bites,