used to be, when they lasted for hours and were the driving force for every sexual encounter. But over time, that passion has slipped away from them, and the kisses slowly decrease in both quantity and intensity. Exactly when the passion began to fade is never quite clear, but most women are at a loss as to how or if it can be regained.
The good news is that the disappointment is not specific to men or women, but women tend to volunteer their feelings of disappointment, and men won't bring it up unless asked. But the fact remains, when kisses lose their heat, it is missed by both of you.
Don't be under the misconception that he's no longer interested in kissing you passionately He may not be interested in talking about it, because men are not often comfortable in any discussion that allows their vulnerability to be seen. What men want is evidence that they turn you on. More than anything else, that's what turns them on. You can send that message in no uncertain terms by the way you kiss him.
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Men will often watch how a woman eats and drinks to get a sense of how she will kiss and make love. The more robust a woman's appetite, the more likely she'll be open and passionate.
What is sadder than those who say they've lost the passion are 11w confessions from those who say they've never had it. To be spending time in a romantic relationship without experiencing the Me of a passionate kiss is unconscionable.
Kissing is the essence of romance out of which passion emerges, and in an ongoing relationship, you deserve sensuality. Whether you're trying to create it or re-create it doesn't matter. No one else is more entitled to passion, regardless of age or length of time in a relationship, than you are. The only prerequisite for passion is a desire to have it.
The History of Kissing
Kissing just may be the greatest form of communication ever invented. According to one legend, the kiss was created by medieval knights for the ridiculous purpose of determining whether their wives had been nipping at the mead barrel while they were off crusading. Fortunately, kissing did not remain limited to alcohol detection. In the past, some young women believed babies were the result of a passionate kiss. (They had the right idea, of course, but they just didn't follow the thought to its biological conclusion.) Indeed, kissing not only survived, it has thrived, and for good reason.
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The word "kiss" comes from the 12th-century English word "cyssan," which refers to "wet, soul, or tongue."
The more likely (and sweeter) explanation of the origin of the kiss extends back to the bond between mother and child when, before the invention of jars of baby food, mothers had to first chew food in order to give it to their child. The emotional connection that takes place here goes way beyond the giving and receiving of food. It's about peace and safety and a sensation of being exactly where each other belongs. The reason a baby often falls asleep at her mother's breast long after she's finished eating is that the feeling of lips on flesh is so comforting.
Human lips not only contain sebaceous glands, they also are filled with extremely sensitive nerve endings. When these nerve endings come in contact with another person's lips or skin, the connection creates a language of its own. We all want to be fluent in lip language in order to send clear messages or receive them in the spirit with which they are intended. A kiss can be kind, empathetic, sympathetic, sad, final, cute, polite, invitational, passionate, ravaging, or aloof. If a picture is worth a thousand words, then a kiss is worth a billion. It can be used to deliver any kind of communication one desires, provided one is skilled in the art. And no kiss has ever been wasted—not even the kiss of death.
For our purposes, however, I'm going to focus on those kisses given and received with the sole intention of stirring the embers of passion—before, during,
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