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whether you think there's anything there or not—just to be safe. That is precisely what napkins are for.
If you see that your lover has a crumb or drop of something on his face or mouth, take your napkin and gently wipe it away. If you're not within comfortable wiping distance, tell him about it in a soft voice or give him a discreet little signal to wipe his mouth.
Excuse yourself to freshen up on your way out of a restaurant. It will give him an opportunity to do the same. At home, mention casually that you need to freshen up; make sure you have mouthwash and dental tape out where it can be seen so he doesn't have to look through your drawers or cabinets in order to make himself presentable.
Lips Are Not J ust for Kissing
I want to share a story with you about men and lips. For years one of my dearest male friends and I have volunteered on the AIDS ward at a Los Angeles hospital. Whenever possible, we would synchronize our breaks in order to get a snack together. During the summer months we usually opted for an ice cream cone. I remember once, fairly early on in our friendship, we were sitting outside eating our cones when he looked over and said, "Lou, you're gonna have to finish that up pretty quickly or this table we're sitting at is going to start rising off the ground." Knowing he didn't mean any harm, I burst into laughter and asked him why. He told me that men have a real thing about women and cones.
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Regarding lipstick, I offer this tip, which comes directly from men: less is definitely more. If you’re not sure, look in a mirror. If you wouldn't want to kiss your mouth, chances are he wouldn't want to either.

Evidently ladies, whenever a man eyes a woman licking an ice cream cone, he imagines her doing the same thing to his penis.
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When you next drink anything in front of a man, let your tongue come out of your mouth just the tiniest bit, to cushion the edge of the glass or cup. I guarantee you'll get a reaction.

Getting in Sync
Several weeks later, we were driving in his car when we saw a girl crossing the street, licking and sucking on a cone, oblivious to anything else. My friend told me to watch the way the men around were looking. I was shocked. Every man at the intersection, as well as those stopped in their cars at the light, was mesmerized by this woman. They couldn't keep their eyes off her mouth! "Lou, let me tell you something," my friend said. “If there is a woman crossing the street eating an ice cream cone, she'll stop traffic."
A professional woman from Florida told me this similar story. Not too long ago she and her boyfriend were getting ready to go out somewhere. She was doing a bit of last minute primping with lipstick while he waited patiently. She said something like, "Just trying to make them pretty so you'll want to kiss them, dear." He let out a laugh and said, "Kissing isn't exactly what I had in mind." As it turns out, it is also common knowledge among men that when they look at women's lips and find them appealing, they don't necessarily think about what we'd be like in kiss. And ladies, men have shared with me that they respond this way when watching a female newscaster. More than likely, their minds are focused on our lips touching something located further south on their bodies.
At no other time is there more intention while kissing than during a romantic prelude. The key, as we discussed in Chapter 2, is to make that intention yours. Kissing is the beginning, middle, and end of incredible lovemaking. For that reason, its power should never be underestimated. If you and your lover are not connected to one another's kisses, there will always be limits to your passion. In order for your sexual spirits to be set free, it is absolutely essential that you kiss and be kissed in a manner that creates heat. An advertising executive from Chicago put it this way: "My boyfriend is a hot, hot kisser. A few minutes of that and I am ready.