Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch by steve bodansky Read Free Book Online

her unless she gives him more direct information. He can ask her questions if the situa- tion warrants it, or he can just enjoy the pleasure of being turned on by her without mentioning it to her. Each situation is unique, and men have to learn which approach is most appropriate in different kinds of circumstances. The more a man has sex, including self-pleasuring, the less of a sense of scarcity he will attach to sex, and this will free him up to act in everyone’s best interest.
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The next chapter explores a number of different avenues for self-pleasuring. It describes how to create an IO in your own body and how to expand on those sensations, especially in women, and it gives men ways to enhance the amount of pleasure they can feel, too.
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his chapter begins by exploring humans’ ability to deliberately focus attention on pleasurable tactile sensations—an ability we have with each of our
five senses. It also touches on our capacity for concep- tual (imaginative) thought. We are presenting you with the tools for having instant orgasms. We outline exercises to enhance this ability; for some, doing the exercises will trigger instant orgasms. The second part of the chapter describes exercises for increasing your body’s ability to feel extended pleasure with the first stroke and beyond, with special emphasis on building connections between your genitals and the rest of your body.
     
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As we’ve discussed, a person who wishes to experience an instant orgasm must first be receptive to the idea. In the last chapter we considered how our minds can become open to this concept. Now we will focus on how our minds influence our bodies. You must get your body into the receptive mode. You have to place your attention on your body’s tactile sensations, and you have to refocus your attention on these sensations whenever you have extrane- ous thoughts. This means placing your attention on your genitals; this is how you create the desire and the sensation. Our nervous system is constantly in- undated with all kinds of sensual overload, and our brains usually uncon- sciously decide which sensations to allow us to notice and which ones to keep us from noticing.
Our consciousness is only able to perceive a small amount of the sensa- tion that is bombarding us; the rest is lost. In addition, our minds are cluttered with extraneous thoughts and past losses. I know for myself that when some- thing negative occurs in my personal universe I tend to dwell on it, foregoing any positive movement forward. We have to make a concerted effort to put our attention on something pleasurable.
We are also difference-sensing beings; that is, our attention is drawn to a change in stimulation. If there is a change in what you smell—for example, a woman walks into your presence wearing fresh perfume—you will notice it, but only for a while. You will notice a loud noise, but if it continues at a steady frequency, at some point you will no longer be as keenly aware of it.
We humans have the ability to override this internal censor and focus our attention on any specific sense. Most of the time, even though our sense of touch is being stimulated, we do not notice it, as our unconscious censor is keeping us focused on some other sense or on some negative thought. Did you feel your buttocks on the chair until you read this sentence? We thought not.
By deliberately training ourselves to feel the potential pleasure in our geni- tals we can feel much more than we think is possible—and this ability expands with use. We can learn to silence most of our other senses and to concentrate on specific pleasures of the genitals. However, we are generally so used to be- ing on the lookout for negative stimuli, such as pain or discomfort, that it
may take some time to grasp the idea of receiving pleasurable stimuli anytime we desire.
     
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