Just F*ck Me! by Eve Kingsley Read Free Book Online Page A

“OUCH!” slips out, take immediate steps to stay in the moment. Chances are that he didn’t mean it, and a sexy little one-line joke can bring you both back into the groove.
     
    If he keeps messing up somehow, you don’t want him to get performance anxiety. Simply say, “No, Honey, like this” and demonstrate on him, then give a big fat sexy “Oh, yeahhhhh” when he does it right. Men respond really well to positive reinforcement, so don’t forget to praise!
     
    If he’s a little too into it, switch gears to a slower pace and a more gentle groove. It depends on how freaked out you get about it, but if he seems to have calmed down and it was a one-off, I would stick with the physical reinforcement of slowing it down and making it a softer experience.
     
    However, if you felt like he was out of control, then you need to have a conversation about it; no amount of sexual excitement is worth you feeling unsafe, even for a moment.
     
    The best way is to make it a light conversation: “You were really getting into it, Cowboy. What happened there?” Let him explain, and then finish up with, “Well, just try not to get too scary manly, OK? I still want to see that it’s you in there somewhere.” If he gets defensive or blames you, calm him down and say that it was fine, but you prefer it to be a bit less than what it was. Then soften the mood with something like, “But don’t worry, we’ll get the hang of it, just like any new, fun thing!”
     
    For some men who really just don’t get it, this behavior might bleed into your daily life. A bit of joking is fun, and a sexy reminder of what you’ve been up to together. But if he starts to treat you badly at all, or in any way tries to be rough, then it’s time to put your foot down and end the shenanigans.
     
    “Hey, wait a minute. That stuff goes on in that room, not out here. Keep it for sexy-time, Bucko.” Nice and stern for a moment, and make sure he knows he’s out of line.
     
    MAKING IT A FANTASTIC EXPERIENCE FOR BOTH OF YOU
     
    What you need to understand is that there is a powerful psychological dynamic going on, which you created when you introduced this idea. What might seem like fun in the heat of the moment, to either one of you, once replayed in the mind in the light of day can be interpreted any number of ways.
     
    This is what you have to watch out for … with both of you.
     
    For his part, he might become embarrassed by acting in a way that might seem too different than how he is normally. He might not like himself for acting that way. Is there something wrong with me because I like it too much? Does it mean I am less of a man because I don’t like it?
     
    You might feel this too. You might wonder if he’s thinking you’re a secret slut. You might feel guilty about what you’ve been doing. Is it wrong to want to feel this way?
     
    Also, despite your assurances, thoughts might creep in, for both of you, about the relationship in general. Is this really because you’re not happy in the relationship, and you’re just blocking out the reality of the situation?
     
    Whew! Take a breath. It’s OK. Let’s review a couple of truths:
     
Despite the fact that you’ve been less than thrilled with what is happening in the bedroom, you are in a loving, committed relationship with a man who cares about you.
     
This is not “wrong.” You are two consenting adults who love each other and want to play a bit with your sexual dynamic. This is a perfectly normal urge that happens in the perfectly normal development of a sexual relationship.
     
While it might feel wild for the two of you, on the grand scale of sexual experimentation, kinks and fetishes, it really isn’t even remotely freaky. You’re simply enhancing the traditional roles of males and females in the bedroom. This is a far cry from, say, orgies, urination or whipping each other with chains. You’re fine.
     
    That said, another truth is that once you get into it with your