Just F*ck Me! by Eve Kingsley Read Free Book Online

to gradually so your man doesn’t ask what you’ve done with his woman! Even if he’s enjoying the new you, he might want to ask you what’s up in a more serious way. After all, one of the signs of a cheating partner is that their sexual tastes change, particularly after a period of lackluster lovemaking between the two of you.
     
    So, you want to be able to explain to him about the changes you’ve made in the bedroom. There are two important elements to this conversation: that you don’t get defensive, and that you don’t place the blame at his feet. “Well, you weren’t making me happy in the bedroom, so I decided to make some changes” is not the right answer!
     
    Also, a man’s ego bruises a lot more easily than you think, which is another reason not to mention any inability on his part.
     
    This doesn’t have to be a protracted discussion. It can be as simple as, “It has been making me so hot recently when you’re all manly and dominant in the bedroom, I thought we could go further in that direction.” Or, you can talk about it in terms of your fantasies of being man-handled, so to speak.
     
    If you want to talk about it in terms of your relationship, you can say, “I love that we’re partners in everything we do, but sometimes in the bedroom I want to feel like the weaker sex, you know? I want to feel like a sex object.”
     
    Speaking as plainly as this sometimes confuses men! This might be hard to believe, but it’s true. This goes back to what we were talking about before, in terms of men being told their whole lives to treat women a certain way, especially when it comes to sex. Whatever the reason, there are some things you can say to further explain your desires.
     
    If he asks if you want him to get really physical, “No, Honey, but there are times when I want you to call the shots and have your way with me. I might nag you for not cleaning up in the kitchen, but you can be as dirty as you want with me in the bedroom!”
     
    If he asks if you’re happy in the relationship, by all means stress as strongly as you can that these desires have no bearing or consequences to your relationship, both day to day and long-term. If possible, try to tie it into a specific thing he did or said that inspired you. “I just got so frisky the other day watching you rebuild the car/play football/chop down that tree, and I was reminded all over again that you are just all man! It turns me on, and I wanted a little bit of that macho lovin’ coming my way!”
     
    He can also be confused about the relationship, mistaking your request for something that is lacking in how he treats you. Again, remind him that this pertains to the bedroom only. You love that he treats you with so much respect and that you’re seen as an equal partner in the relationship, you just want to feel more like a naughty girl once the bedroom door closes at night.
     
    But, I must emphasize here that too much talk can take all of the fun, passion and spontaneity out of this kind of sexual experimentation. If he keeps asking you to explain or clarify, drag him into the bedroom and show him! Or with a wink, tell him you’ll be happy to explain it further, naked, between the sheets – it’s up to him to name the time and date.
     
    Once the two of you get into this kind of lovemaking, you want to make sure that the boundaries of your comfort are respected. While this might be a bit rocky at first, some gentle reinforcement and demonstrating can smooth out the way. Again, the heat of the moment is the best time for this, as you’ll quickly move onto other more pressing issues!
     
    Sometimes, a simple, “Not so hard, Stud!” can make him pull back or slow down a bit. Other phrases can include, “Not too strong…yes, just like that.” “OK, Baby, that’s far enough right there.” “Now, now, let’s not get carried away,” said with a cheeky grin and a wink, can soften the criticism.
     
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