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way, when you find your slave candidate, you can
show this person your protocol book, based upon your
own mastery of a skill set.
    The greatest incentive for a Master to expand skills and experiences is that the new you will likely attract a more versatile slave.
    Bob Rubel
    I'll stop. I could go on, and so could you. This is really a small
part of what you are going to have to put yourself through to
reinvent yourself in the image you think your partner-to-be would
be seeking.
    What if it Doesn't Work?
    I've put this section in this part of the book because it's part of
knowing one's self.

    You have to know when to hold `em, know when to fold `em,
know when to walk away, know when to run...
    Kenny Rogers, The Gambler
    To quote Master Skip Chasey: "A Master is willing to bear,
without complaint or self-pity, the awareness that doing his best
may at times not be good enough." (Master Skip Chasey: The
Qualities of a Master)
    And, let me hasten to add: when a relationship doesn't work out
in an M/s structure, one option is to change the structure! After
all, you must have felt something substantial to have offered (or
accepted) the training contract in the first place. Build on the
common elements, rather than dismiss the entire relationship.
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
    Personally, I have had the experience of extending a three-month
training contract to a potential slave, only to discover, at about
the 60-day point, that the person did not have a slave heart. She
wanted the relationship to work so badly that she worked very
hard to conform to my version of an M/s relationship; we realized we were on the wrong path. However, rather than end our
relationship, we restructured it as a form of Daddy/girl relationship (ours was an Uncle/niece structure). This worked just fine
and lasted another nine months. This structure had the added
advantage of being much less threatening to my Alpha slave.
    But, if the relationship does have to end, if you can't agree on a
different structure, all your friends need to know is that the contract ended. Nothing else. "Didn't you want to renew it?", asked
a well-meaning friend. "No, we were complete with our relationship, and the contract period ended." End of story.

    Chapter Summary
    In Part I, we started out by defining the common terms for players in this M/s sphere - Master, Dom, submissive and slave, to
name a few. Then we rolled through some common relationship
structures - Top/bottom, Dom/submissive, Master/slave, and
Owner/slave. In Part II, we proposed some self-examination
questions. We asked you to consider who YOU are and what
you SEEK. We asked how much you would PAY - in time and
money - to transform yourself and/or your slave to be your ideal
person, and ended that part of the book by suggesting ways of
changing a relationship that didn't quite work out.

     

"Master/slave relationships are about understanding who we
are on earth and what we are here to do."
    Master Jim Glass,
Northeast Master/slave Conference, 2006
    Okay, you've decided to prepare for an M/s relationship. Before
we get into selecting a partner, there are a few preparatory
thoughts.
    Why Does This Person Want to be a slave?
    You might want to explore a threshold question: does your slave
candidate want to be a 24/7 slave or something else? For the
sake of this section, I'll assume you want what is increasingly
called, Total Power Exchange - a 24/7 relationship that involves
power exchange, as opposed to scene-specific role-play. From
this point, the greatest hurdle is the candidate's personal honesty. You are going to have to discern what sings to this person
- what he/she really wants out of this relationship with you. Is
this slave really prepared for an authority exchange in which you,
as Master, now have nearly absolute control? You may want your
slave candidate to think this through for a minute. The slave may
love jazz, and Master only listens to