Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert J. Rubel Read Free Book Online

work.

    Hmmmmm.
    This could be time for a little introspection. Perhaps you need to
consider seriously examining yourself. You need to do this for
yourself and not for some possible future partner. You'll have to
make a list that is personally relevant, but for starters...
    • How's your English - both oral and written? Would
you be at home in a graduate-school discussion of
some topic, or would you draw attention to yourself?
    • How are your table manners? Know how to pick up a
fork? Know how to pat (not wipe) your mouth with a
napkin? Know not to open that napkin more than half
way? Know where to place the napkin when you arise
from Table?
    • When you enter a room, do you take a moment to
check it out? Do you immediately recognize whether
or not the room's owner is highly visual? Are you able
to make distinctions about the owner's social class and
personal tastes from the room decorations? Why do
this? So you can establish rapport during conversations.
    • When you speak, is your voice gentle and pleasing?
Do you have a nasal tonality? Have a regional dialect?
    • If you hear something spoken, can you identify/isolate
key issues and repeat them with accuracy?
    • How's your wardrobe? Can you go shopping at
Neiman Marcus and feel right at home?
    • How flexible are you, psychologically - can you adapt
quickly to changing circumstances, or do you freeze
in the headlights? (I don't mean crises, I mean longwave life changes. Job retraining, for example.)

    • How are you at conversational magic? Do you know
enough about social intercourse not to speak only
about yourself? Can you enthrall a slave candidate
(or a Master candidate) for hours by asking leading
questions? How broadly can you speak about current
events?
    • When you are out in public, how closely do you notice
people? Do you notice their gestures, their expressions, their mannerisms? To monitor the slave, the
Master must be an extremely keen observer.
    • How much Leather history do you know? After all, this
is a Leather lifestyle.
    • How good are you at problem solving? Ever read any
books about it? Same for branch thinking vs. linear
thinking. Can you "think outside of the box" when solving problems?
    • Do you watch TV? Consider limiting your viewing
time and reading more books. Read widely and learn
to discuss what you read. Consider joining a book
club. Learn to prepare two and three course meals
for yourself. It's a skill you may need later. Never
dine informally when alone. Bad habit. No, I have not
changed viewpoints; I'm still addressing Masters. This
is all about building up the little personal habits - the
"muscle memory" - to Master someone else.
    • Are you an expert in some form of BDSM play? Okay,
so master another form of BDSM play. And who, if
I may be so bold, agrees with you that you ARE a
Master at some form of BDSM? Does your local kink
group ask you to do presentations?
    • Do you have a spiritual core? How does your spirituality influence/affect/alter your life?
    • Do you have good anger management? Are you carrying difficult baggage from your childhood or prior marriage? Have you considered seeing a therapist?
Too expensive? Just how costly is it for you NOT to
deal with your baggage?

    • Learn to interrupt what you are doing, start something
else, then come back to what you were doing. When
you own a slave, you will need to be sensitive to managing that person's time. You should learn how it feels
to be interrupted in the middle of a task that you are
completing from a list of perhaps a dozen other tasks
that all must be completed.
    • Learn to do things completely and perfectly. After all,
you are likely to demand that level of activity from your
slave - so, be able to lead by example. If you are doing
dinner dishes, end by scouring the counters and sinks.
If you are making notes on how to do something, make
the notes neat and put them in your protocol book. In
this