Mind Over Fear: How To Squash Your Fears, Overcome Anxiety, and Boost Your Self-Esteem In Just 30 Days by Victor L. Fox Read Free Book Online Page A

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    At this point you should have a good understanding of what beliefs are and how they control every aspect of your life. In this chapter will will look at the beliefs of self-confident people. We will also explore what you will need to do in order to eliminate your disempowering subconscious beliefs and replace them with those beliefs of self-confident individuals.
    Now let’s take a look at what defines a self-confident person. A self-confident person is someone who’s subconscious mind is predominantly composed of empowering beliefs. On the other hand, those who lack self-confidence are mostly controlled by disempowering beliefs.  
    A human brain is much like a computer. Imagine a world where all computers are built with very similar hardware, the same way that human beings are born with similar physical attributes. The only thing that allows us to distinguish one computer from another is the software installed on them. The same thing is true with human beings. Our physical attributes are almost identical, but what truly separates us from each other is the way our brains are “wired”.
    In a computer world, if you want to have computer number 2 run the same software as computer number 1, all you have to do is uninstall some of the software that is already on computer number 2, and replace it with the same software that is installed on computer number 1. This is how you would make two computers identical to each other.
    We can actually do the same thing with our brain. With a few mental tweaks we can reprogram our brain to get rid of fear, anxiety, and replace it with self-confidence. Certainly, it won’t be as easy as clicking a few buttons on a computer, but with a little bit of effort, patients, and commitment, it can be done.
    Before we can start “rewiring” your brain we must know how it’s wired right now. More specifically, we will need to change your disempowering subconscious beliefs into empowering beliefs. However, we need to know what these disempowering beliefs are before we can do it.
    Metaphorically speaking, if you want to travel to place where you’ve never been before, you will need to take out a map and figure out the following three things. Where are you right now? As soon as you would figure that out, you would place a marker on the map. Your next question would have to be, “where exactly do I want to go?” Once again, you would mark it down on the map. And your last question would have to be, “what is the most efficient way for me to reach my destination from my current location?”
    A similar process applies to gaining self-confidence. Since you already know your destination, all you need to do right now is determine what your current beliefs are. Later, I will show you the quickest way to get to your desired end result, which is self-confidence.
    One of the best ways to determine your current beliefs is by using metaphors. A metaphor is a figure of speech that usually implies a comparison between two things that aren’t alike. For example, if someone feels emotionally hurt they might say, “He tore my heart to pieces.” Or if the person feels happy, he or she might say “I’m in heaven,” or “I’m on cloud nine.” Even though none of these were literal statements, we know what they mean.  
    To determine how your brain is wired right now we are going to use global metaphors. They are the same as regular metaphors, but only on a larger scale. Specifically, we are looking for metaphors about life. For example, “Life is an open road,” or “Life is war,” or like the metaphor from the movie “Forest Gump,” “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get.”
    At this point, I would like you to come up with a few global metaphors on your own. Keep in mind that you must be one hundred percent honest with yourself, and don’t try to think of something that sounds good even though you don’t actually believe it. In fact, the first