Mind Over Fear: How To Squash Your Fears, Overcome Anxiety, and Boost Your Self-Esteem In Just 30 Days by Victor L. Fox Read Free Book Online Page B
Authors: Victor L. Fox
thing that instinctively comes out of your mouth is most likely how you see life around you. There is a good chance that you won’t like whatever comes out of your mouth first, and you may want to start rationalize it. You might think that it makes no sense; therefore, it can’t be your metaphor about life, but you can’t run from the truth. Usually whatever will come out of your mouth first is exactly the way you naturally see the world around you on a subconscious level.
So remember, these metaphors shouldn’t be something cool that you heard somewhere else. You have to come up with something original that comes from you. Don’t over analyze it even if you don’t like it, or if you think that it doesn’t represent who you are. Also, be sure to write your metaphors down on paper.
Quick hint: To make this process easier, I suggest that you start your sentences in the following manner:
“Life is like…” or “Life is…”
Another great way to determine how your brain is currently wired is by exploring your beliefs about your identity. In other words, all you really have to do is answer the following two questions:
How do I see myself?
How do other people see me? (This has to be from your own point of view.)
Just like any building, your beliefs also have a structure, or a hierarchy. There is always a master belief that serves as the foundation for all other beliefs that you have. The closer the beliefs are to this foundation, the more important they are.
The previous exercises should help you shine some light on your current master beliefs. You might not be able to pinpoint exactly what these master beliefs are, but you should have a basic idea.
Although your master beliefs are never set in stone, they are usually pretty solid by the time you are in your teens. After the master beliefs are set, they determine the type of supporting (smaller) beliefs that will get attached to them. This is why your master beliefs will always have a huge impact on the quality of your life.
But there is a good side to this. Changing your disempowering master beliefs will start a chain reaction, perpetuating into a total transformation. A small change to your master beliefs will start changing your smaller disempowering beliefs that were clipped on to the old master beliefs. It’s a similar process to the way a virus spreads.
Before I reveal the kind of master beliefs that are needed in order to have total self-confidence, I would like to remind you of the following: In general, people don’t like to change their beliefs. Most people will do whatever it takes in order for them not to change their beliefs. It’s a form of subconscious defense mechanism that we all have. As soon as we feel that our beliefs are being challenged, we immediately try to come up with an excuse for why we are correct, and why we don’t need to change anything. Keep this in mind because it will be very beneficial to you later on.
All the self-confident people that I have ever studied have a master belief that says: “You must take full responsibility for everything that happens to you in life.” This belief allows them to take full control over how they feel and live. Remember, every action leads to a reaction. If you are always in control of your actions, you can control most of the reactions that will occur.
This belief is like an invisible, impenetrable shield that protects you from things that would normally have a negative influence on you from the outside world.
There is a great quote by Benjamin Disraeli, which says: “Man is not the creature of circumstances, circumstances are the creatures of men.” I believe this quote truly represents what I am trying to get across to you here.
Just imagine for a second that on a subconscious level you believed that you could do and achieve anything you want. Like an invisible shield was protecting you from any kind of physical or mental harm such as rejection, embarrassment,
So remember, these metaphors shouldn’t be something cool that you heard somewhere else. You have to come up with something original that comes from you. Don’t over analyze it even if you don’t like it, or if you think that it doesn’t represent who you are. Also, be sure to write your metaphors down on paper.
Quick hint: To make this process easier, I suggest that you start your sentences in the following manner:
“Life is like…” or “Life is…”
Another great way to determine how your brain is currently wired is by exploring your beliefs about your identity. In other words, all you really have to do is answer the following two questions:
How do I see myself?
How do other people see me? (This has to be from your own point of view.)
Just like any building, your beliefs also have a structure, or a hierarchy. There is always a master belief that serves as the foundation for all other beliefs that you have. The closer the beliefs are to this foundation, the more important they are.
The previous exercises should help you shine some light on your current master beliefs. You might not be able to pinpoint exactly what these master beliefs are, but you should have a basic idea.
Although your master beliefs are never set in stone, they are usually pretty solid by the time you are in your teens. After the master beliefs are set, they determine the type of supporting (smaller) beliefs that will get attached to them. This is why your master beliefs will always have a huge impact on the quality of your life.
But there is a good side to this. Changing your disempowering master beliefs will start a chain reaction, perpetuating into a total transformation. A small change to your master beliefs will start changing your smaller disempowering beliefs that were clipped on to the old master beliefs. It’s a similar process to the way a virus spreads.
Before I reveal the kind of master beliefs that are needed in order to have total self-confidence, I would like to remind you of the following: In general, people don’t like to change their beliefs. Most people will do whatever it takes in order for them not to change their beliefs. It’s a form of subconscious defense mechanism that we all have. As soon as we feel that our beliefs are being challenged, we immediately try to come up with an excuse for why we are correct, and why we don’t need to change anything. Keep this in mind because it will be very beneficial to you later on.
All the self-confident people that I have ever studied have a master belief that says: “You must take full responsibility for everything that happens to you in life.” This belief allows them to take full control over how they feel and live. Remember, every action leads to a reaction. If you are always in control of your actions, you can control most of the reactions that will occur.
This belief is like an invisible, impenetrable shield that protects you from things that would normally have a negative influence on you from the outside world.
There is a great quote by Benjamin Disraeli, which says: “Man is not the creature of circumstances, circumstances are the creatures of men.” I believe this quote truly represents what I am trying to get across to you here.
Just imagine for a second that on a subconscious level you believed that you could do and achieve anything you want. Like an invisible shield was protecting you from any kind of physical or mental harm such as rejection, embarrassment,
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