partner’s hair. Slowly work your way up the scalp until you reach the front. For added measure, occasionally sift your fingers through your partner’s mane like a comb, grip a chunk of hair near the roots, and gently tug (make sure you grasp enough hair that you’re not pulling on just a few strands—that will hurt). Gently pulling on your partner’s hair will stimulate the nerve endings underneath the skin’s surface, where your typical scalp massage can’t reach.
THE BODY’S EROGENOUS ZONES
Nape of the Neck
This technique requires the steadiness of a surgeon, so for added stability, rest your right hand on your partner’s right shoulder and your left hand on the left shoulder. Your thumbs, however, should remain free, and be perfectly situated to stroke the nape of the neck. Let your thumb pads move up and down along this extra-sensitive area like two sideways windshield wipers. Use a barely there touch that tickles the tiny hairs but not the skin underneath.
Once you have thoroughly tantalized the nape of the neck, inch your thumb up to the base of the skull and feel around for a tiny indentation. In Tantric traditions this spot goes by many names: the Bindu Point, the Mouth of God, and the Inner Smile since if you contract the muscles here (most easily done by wiggling your ears), this dimple morphs into a tiny U-shaped grin. Given that many muscles in the neck and skull are connected at this point, pressing down here with a thumb pad or massaging the area in tiny circles will relax the entire head and neck with almost zero effort on your part. Your recipient will want to breathe deep to enhance the effects and get in a deeper state of relaxation.
BONUS TIP TO TRY
This technique (which is done with your partner lying faceup) doesn’t fit into our overall head-to-toe massage extravaganza, but it is a great one to try some other time. It’s derived from cranial sacral therapy—a type of treatment used by chiropractors to balance cerebral spinal fluid levels, which can often get out of whack resulting in headaches, backaches, and other mood busters. Lucky for us, there’s a spot on the back of the head that acts like a “reset” button that can reboot the body. To find it, make a fist with one hand and wrap your other hand around it. Then slide this mega-fist under your partner’s head so the back of the skull is resting on it like a pillow. Hold that position for twenty seconds or until you notice your partner’s breathing deepen, which is a sign that cranial sacral therapy is working its magic.
The Shoulders
Kneading the shoulders between thumb and fingers is nice, but the time is nigh to try a sexier, souped-up version. Place a hand on each shoulder and spread your fingers wide. Then press down in a rippling motion as if you were slowly playing the piano. This should produce a pleasurable tingling sensation while you work out the kinks. If you’re doing this technique in our recommended position—you’re perched on your partner’s cute derrière—you can show how much you’re enjoying yourself too by simultaneously circling your pelvis against the butt or tailbone. Consider it a steamy reminder of what’s to come.
The Back
There are good back massages and then there are those that’ll get your partner unwound and writhing in pleasure. To perform the latter, remain straddling your partner’s butt (gyrating a little if you’re so inspired) and place both palms on the base of the back above the butt. Firmly press the heels of your hands into the muscles alongside the spine and push up toward the shoulders. Once there, do U-turns outward and drag your hands back down (essentially your hands should be tracing two long, oval tracks on each side of the spine). Next move so you’re kneeling at your partner’s head and try this technique in the other direction, pushing your hands down the spine and back up. Unlike the previous position, this provides the additional benefit of stretching the