karate chop this spot with the edges of your hands. Finally, place your palm on the area, lean your full weight on it, and rock the sacrum back and forth (this is easiest if you stand or kneel at your partner’s head). If you’re unsure of how much pressure to use, go ahead and ask. We have generally found that people can’t get enough and will say, “Bring it on, baby!”
The Butt
These two round mounds of flesh all but beg to be patted, pinched, and played with; now you’re going to learn how to pay this area the homage it truly deserves. Standing or kneeling at your partner’s side, place one hand on the top of one butt cheek and your other hand onthe bottom. Then push your hands toward one another in a kneading motion, alternating hand after hand. After a few minutes, release and repeat on the other cheek. This technique accomplishes what one hand cannot: It kneads the entire gluteus maximus muscle, which is one of the thickest in the body and a major warehouse for stress retention. There’s a lot of truth to the term “tight ass”—so it’s good that you are loosening it up.
Our next point of interest is the gluteal fold, the crease at the bottom of each butt cheek. Using the pads of both thumbs, push into both creases until you feel a bony knob underneath. This is the sitz bone. Many of the muscles in your pelvis are attached at this point, so pushing down here for a few seconds can help relieve tension in the whole area and prime it for a good time.
Now that your partner’s rump has been sufficiently tenderized, follow up with a light-as-a-feather caress. Still standing or kneeling to one side, lightly drag your fingertips across both butt cheeks, starting your stroke on the far side of the hips and ending on the side near you. Your hands should alternate and move in the same direction as if they were playing a harp; once you have “played” your partner one way, move to the other side and play it again.
Last but not least, straddle your partner’s thighs and hold a butt cheek in each hand. Push them together for a few seconds, then gently spread them apart as far as your partner finds pleasurable. Next push one butt cheek up and the other down, then switch. This will stretch and stimulate not only the gluteal muscles, but an even more sensitive area in between them: the anus. Even if your partner has no interest in anything entering this exit, this technique will feel pleasurable. To show your partner you’re enjoying yourself immensely as well, go ahead and grind your genitals against your partner’s thigh;men should also feel free to scoot up and press or rub their hard-on in the crease between their partner’s butt cheeks.
The Legs
The first step to a good leg massage is to relax the hamstring, a large muscle on the back of the thigh. Straddling your partner’s calf or calves, make a fist and place your knuckles just above the back of the knee. Using the weight of your upper body, roll your wrist forward so your knuckles ease into the flesh. Work your way slowly up one thigh.
Next wedge one hand under the knee and cup your palm over the kneecap. Then, with the fingertips of your other hand, trace a circle on the back of the knee—a well-known erogenous zone that requires only the lightest touch to be a turn-on. What’s more, by touching both sides of this bony structure at once you allow sensations to sink through the area rather than just skim the surface.
After you have teased the knee, place your hands flat and parallel on each side of the calf and vigorously rub your hands back and forth, with one hand moving up while the other moves down as if you were trying to light a fire (if the leg in question is hairy, you may want to use massage oil so there isn’t too much friction). Shimmy your hands up to the thighs to increase circulation and sensitivity from the ankles on up.
The very last thing you should do before moving to the other leg is to gently rock the leg you’ve been