Ethanâs father had a lot of sayings, like: Where thereâs a will thereâs a way. Why put off until tomorrow what you can do today? Trust, donât test.
In a very simple way they made sense, and Ethan would nod his head and listen, but all the while he knew his father didnât have a clue about what life was like in middle school.
There is your story and thereâs my story and then thereâs the truth, his father would say. This was just another version of the famous, There are two sides to every story.
But he was wrong.
Ethanâs father was a banker and he worked with loans, and factors, and numbers, and numbers always added up the same way. People didnât.
Yes, Matthew Berry slugged Stewart Gunderson square in the face, but that wasnât the truth. Not all of it, anyway.
Yes, Stewart Gunderson had it coming. He deserved it. But that wasnât the whole truth either.
And yes, the whole student population was alerted to the incident within a matter of wireless nanoseconds, and that was getting a little closer to the truth.
Matthew was sitting somewhere in the school, waiting for his parents to show up, so they could listen to the guidance counselor relate her version of the truth, which would have been formed with no empirical evidence, but rather, preconceived notions and hearsay.
Or maybe it was just the opposite.
Maybe Mrs. Meadhall was suspending Matthew based solely on empirical evidence, without any consideration of the situation or the backstory of the people involved. After all, Stewart did have a bloody nose and no one could even see the urine that had dried on Matthewâs shoes anymore.
Ethan had no idea, but he knew it was unfair.
Lifeâs not fair, his father would say.
Really, Dad? I didnât know that .
Have you been to middle school lately?
DEPARTMENT OF HOMELAND SECURITY
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WMS GUIDANCE DEPARTMENT MEMO
TO: All Student Classes
FROM: Jennifer Sansone, Director of Guidance
SUBJECT: Anti-bullying agenda
Our newly implemented âBully Boxâ will sit in the outer area of the main office, next to the sign-in book on the left end of the counter. It will be completely anonymous, unless, of course, you choose, as we strongly advise, to put your name on your entry. The forms to fill out will be in a tray to the right of the box itself. Pencils will be available as well. All valid complaints will be carefully attended to, but remember, there is a distinction between telling and tattling.
To clarify: Tattling is about wanting to getsomeone in trouble, whereas telling is about doing the right thing.
We trust our middle-schoolers to know and respect the difference.
Sincerely,
Jennifer Sansone
BULLY BOX FORM
Your name:
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Grade:
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Todayâs date:
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Please check one:
I am being bullied.
I have observed someone else being bullied (bystander).
Bullyâs name:
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Date of event:
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please describe the event in as much detail as you can (use the back if necessary):
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Other witnesses:
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When complete, put this sheet in the Bully Box in the front office for review by a school administrator.
EMPATHY IS OVERRATED
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Freida was a strange name to begin with, so maybe it was natural that it belonged to a strange girl. But âstrangeâ was a strong word, wasnât it? Surprising or unusual in a way that is hard to understand? No, Freida wasnât really hard to understand. She was different because she wanted it that way, and thatâs what was surprising.
âWhy do you have to dress like that? Itâs like youâre just asking for it.â The words flew out of Nadineâs mouth.
Now, Nadine might have seemed like an unusual or strange name as well, but Freidaâs sister could have been the poster child for fitting in. If there was a National Month of the Normal Child, Nadine would bethe spokesperson. Even her own mother would have a hard time picking out Nadine in her
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