Sex Tips for Straight Women From a Gay Man by Dan Anderson, Maggie Berman Read Free Book Online Page A

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    This safe and simple alternative has the woman lying on her back with the guy straddling her waist. You can tweak his nipples, stroke his inner thighs, play with his testicles, or play with yourself for that matter. In the meantime, he has his way with himself, masturbating until he reaches orgasm—you can help out by squirting a little lube in his hand—and directing the semen away from your face and onto your neck and upper chest. Hence the name pearl necklace, which can mean any style, from a simple choker to a luxurious opera-length strand, depending on your partner.
    This technique is extremely exciting for men because they know how to handle themselves exactly the way they like, and because they never cease to love watching themselves come.
    It’s minimal work for you with maximum return. In theory, the woman doesn’t have to do a thing except suggest the whole procedure. He can have a party all by himself, and you can close your eyes and think about the sale at Saks. But you know our feelings on that: no tennis bracelets for sitting around with a bored look on your face. For better results, you should be actively involved, urging him on, with interest and enthusiasm.
    For variety, you can work in some of your own hand techniques, directing his ejaculation toward the neck, thereby fashioning your own strand of pearls.
    M & MS
    M&Ms is the nickname gay guys use for mutual masturbation.
    It’s completely safe; you both get what you want and you can use any preferred lubricant as long as you don’t 107
    Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man move on to intercourse. Unlike many straight guys, gay men have no problem tossing off in front of their partners. They know that when Mr. Stiffy needs attention, he’ll take it from just about any place he can get it, including his old, cherished friend, Mr. Hand. So why do so many straight guys have a problem with handling themselves in front of a woman? Some of the reasons that popped up in yet another of our informal polls included a fear that you’d think he was gay, that you’d think he was a geek if he knew how to toss off too well, that they’re obsessed with going “all the way” and won’t feel complete unless they do, and that they’re just plain lazy and want you to do all the work. (That last response had a slightly bitter note to it; we suggest you try not to think along those lines with your partner.)
    One more reason came out when a friend told us about an experience she remembered from college. Seems like one of her girlfriends ended up in bed with a guy and fell asleep.
    When she awoke, she was horrified to find him tossing off and about to shoot a shot on her. We think she probably shouldn’t have been so shocked. After all, boys will be boys, especially in college, and he was probably ready with a story about the dreaded blue balls. But she was out the door before either his explanation or his ejaculation, and the girl told just about everybody she knew. The poor guy became known for his tossing off all around campus, and everybody made fun of him. Maybe it was just college high jinks, but it does appear that straight folks are not quite as comfortable as gay guys when it comes to self-stimulation. This is probably changing, but you still may encounter a little of the old-school shyness.
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    Sometimes your partner may not have the right touch for you, so you have to take your things into your own hands for a while. The obvious thing is for him to handle himself, too.
    So how do you, as a straight woman, let your guy know that it’s okay for him to toss off? You could try working on yourself, and hope he does the same. You might also let him know that you like to watch him. This is also a way for you to hone your own manual skills by keeping a close eye on exactly how he handles himself. However it happens, just remember that everybody likes M&Ms,