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complementary; they fit together to form a single unit. There is a completion in the joining of the penis and vagina, when a man’s dynamic pole meets and penetrates a woman’s receptive pole. When separate and apart, it can be said that the genitals exist as two incomplete halves. Tantra masters believe that everything that is incomplete is longing for completion and suggest that the search for sex, the longing for sex, represents a deep yearning for union, completion, and peace.
    Through the understanding of polarity—the equal, opposite, and complementary forces—it becomes more apparent that man is not necessarily an independent unit unto himself. In order to invite the truly masculine qualities embodied in his penis, a man is dependent on the environment around him, namely, the vagina. The quality of receptivity determines or influences the dynamic qualities. A dynamic force can only be dynamic (experience its very self) through being received. In fact, the more receptive, the more dynamic; the two happenings are inextricably linked. Giving makes receiving possible, and receiving makes giving possible, which is why it is so important for a man to take into account his equal and opposite force and become aware of the vital role of receptivity.
    The Significance of the Female Environment
    To manifest the vitality of the penis and discover how best to call forth its dynamic male qualities (and essential function), the woman needs to be centrally placed in the sexual constellation. Man physically enters woman with his penis, so the environment surrounding the penis is to be given value and not underestimated. The polarity differences between men and women are best embraced and enhanced, not sidestepped, in order to make the most of the sexual situation. Acknowledging the woman’s receptive nature allows the man to experience himself as a truly masculine force. He feels a deep sexual fulfillment when he experiences male energy flowing through him and being received by the woman.
    Man is inextricably dependant on woman for his higher experiences, and her environment needs some preparation to be able to warmly receive the guest. Man basically can be ready for sex at any given moment if he so wishes, which is probably the by-product of being a positive, dynamic force. Woman’s lack of instant readiness is a by-product of her nature as a receptive, passive force. Any reluctance or unwillingness in sex is not a mental hang-up or frigidity, but rather a reflection of the intelligence of the body.
    Woman’s Body Needs Clock Time to Open
    Usually man prefers to penetrate woman as soon as possible. Getting inside her becomes his primary focus, often from fear of losing his initial erection response. When a man has to hang around on the fringes waiting for the woman, he easily loses his erection and may have to wait some time for another. In reality, a leisurely, extended time frame, even an hour or three, will normally suit woman very nicely. She is able to tune into her body and relax into herself. If the man takes the time to “be” with the woman, perhaps to lovingly and softly (as a feather) caress her body into an energetically expanded state before entering her, he will be amazed by what an awesome experience it is. To consciously enter and be received by an inviting and absorbing channel changes the entire experience, which in turn transforms man.
    When woman is entered too early, without feeling truly ready to receive, without the feeling of a total yearning “yes,” her body may begin gradually to close down, interest in sex may dwindle, and reluctance to have sex may increase. During the initial phases of lovers’ meeting, the woman’s heart is wide open, so receiving man totally and at any time is not an issue. But sooner or later a woman will require acknowledgment of her differences if she is to continue enjoying sex well into her later years. The same is true for man. On an encouraging note, once a man of