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a Type 1 child, you may wonder if there are connections between the ideas they share in rapid succession. The connections are there, but they are random and they come in spurts.
    Parents of these children often observe that they act “without thinking things through.” But Type 1 children often just think things through too quickly for their parents or others to notice. They may seem scattered or thoughtless, but they are jumping from idea to idea, mentally organizing quickly, and juggling many things at once. They seem to instantly know what they want and then jump to the next idea just as easily.
    Child Whisperer Tip: Their quick movement from idea to idea often earns these children the label of “childish” or “silly.” So Type 1 children long to be respected as they grow up. In order to be taken seriously, they commonly attempt to slow down their energy and change who they are. Take your Type 1 child’s thought process seriously and listen to what they have to say, no matter how scattered it may appear at times. Their brains work quickly and their language has a hard time keeping up with how quickly thoughts move through their mind. Be willing to just try to make the jump from thought to thought with them sometimes.

    When it comes to a Type 1s feelings, everything is larger than life. Little joys are huge delights. Hurt feelings can lead to bursts of emotion. Both expressions may sound quite loud, as they express their emotions vocally, especially as young children. Type 1 toddlers are either screaming in delight or screaming in frustration. The highest squeal you hear from teenage girls is most likely to come from a Type 1.

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    ADRIA’S STORY
    Celebrating Every Day
    Little Adria was playing by herself outside one day, not realizing that her mom was watching. She went down the slide and at the bottom, she shouted, “Ta da!” Even when she was playing by herself, and she thought nobody else was around, she still enjoyed herself enough to celebrate and shout out loud to congratulate herself for a fun accomplishment. This is just how cute a little Type 1 child thinks and feels. What a delight!
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    Type 1s process emotion very quickly when given permission to feel their feelings. They feel it and move on. They do not feel emotion deeply. Feelings are light and are meant to stay that way. Just like Type 1 children go from sunny to tears in a second, they often go back to their naturally cheerful disposition just as quickly after being validated and heard. Just because a Type 1 child moves through their emotions in what might look like a disorganized or disconnected way, that does not make their feelings any less valid or real.
    A Type 1 child can get emotionally explosive at times, but when acknowledged and honored for their feelings they let go of them easily and then often feel guilty for getting so upset. As their natural expression is designed to help lift the mood and energy of others, these children can be very hard on themselves if they feel their emotions have done just the opposite.

    Child Whisperer Tip: Help your Type 1 child by inviting them to express their feelings before they build up and turn into explosive expressions. Your child may shy away from expressing uncomfortable emotions, as they do not want to add anything they perceive as negative or unhappy to stressful family situations. But you do not want your Type 1 child to learn to repress emotions. I have met many Type 1 adults who started doing this in their childhood in an effort to make mom or dad happy. This pattern only turns the child into a depressed, overweight, Type 1 adult.
    Encourage emotional expression and be patient with any outbursts. Type 1 energy is like a geyser—it erupts randomly, goes off big and then suddenly, it’s over! After the outburst, reassure your Type 1 child that it is okay to express feelings and everyone is fine and happy. They need to know their feelings do not disrupt the family’s general