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middle
ground—something you guys can both talk about or whatever. It’s
cool to have a few things you’re both into, but it’s cool to be
different too.

    And I have to say it…when all else
fails, flirt. Some of you are probably rolling your eyes at me now
and when I say flirt, I don’t mean throw yourself at the guy.
There’s a huge difference, but a little flirty can go a long
way.

    Hope that helps.

    Hook-up Doc

    SEBASTIAN’S RULES: Control

    Alright, this is where I turn into one
of those guys who no one expects me to be, but yeah, I don’t really
care about that. I tell it how it is and say what I
feel.

    Control is important. When I say
control I don’t mean bossy or running the show all the time, but I
mean being in control of yourself, who you are and what you do.
It’s really hard to give examples about this without giving
spoilers away about my book, but control is important. I’ve seen
girls end up in bad situations. I’ve seen something that seems
okay, change quickly.

    I also want to say that I know
sometimes shit happens. That you can do everything right and a guy
just ends up being a douche.

    It sucks.

    I don’t know this chick’s math tutor
and he could be a totally chill guy, so this isn’t only directed at
him. I’m not even saying it’s directed at only math girl and guy in
particular because one of them is older than the other—this message
just reminded me of the control rule and it’s something I really
wanna throw out there.

    Stay in control, if you can. Remember
what you want and who you are and don’t let someone else push you
into anything. I used to get shit all the time about girls. I’ll
fully admit to seeing a bunch of them in the past, but the thing
is, we were all on the same page. Know your page and don’t let
someone make you turn into a speed reader if you don’t want to be
one.

    It’s a big sea out there with a whole
lot of fish. You’ll find another one.

CASE NUMBER TWO:
    Hey Doc,

    I may just give you your biggest
challenge yet, because not only am I 'the friend' but worse is I am
'one of the boys'. Don't get me wrong, I am totally a chick, a full
blown, full figured chick, but I am more likely to punch him than
hug him and challenge him to a seven hour Halo session instead of
make out session. Who is him? That's not really the point here. The
point is I don't know how to make him see me as a girl without
doing that pink dress crap. It also doesn't help that I have to
remind him on a regular basis that I am a girl and I really don't
want to hear about the girls he is hooking up with. Is there a
middle ground?

    Later,

    Not just one of the boys

    Not just one of the boys,
    Shit. This is a hard one. I mean, I
totally know what to tell you, but you’re in a tough
spot.
    It’s hard because there’s the part of
me who wants to say, regardless of how he “sees” you; he totally
knows you’re a girl. I don’t care if my girlfriends are just
friends; I totally know they’re of the female variety. I’m a guy,
I’m visual, and I notice things.
    But then there’s the other part of me
who knows how a guy can start to see things differently…things we
might have noticed about a girl in the friend category and then
start to see it differently. Unfortunately, it just
happens.
    Or not. How’s that for
help?
    If I were you I’d start out by giving
him his own medicine. He tells you about girls, you tell him about
guys. You’ll definitely get a feel for him that way. Does he get
jealous? I’m not just talking the
“I-don’t-want-to-hear-about-a-guy” thing. I’m saying HOW does he
react to it? You know him and you should be able to read
him.
    I’m big on telling girls not to change
who they are just to hook-up with a guy. Totally not worth it and I
know I’m not changing who I am for a girl. So, if you’re not a
dress girl and he wants a dress girl, then he might just have to be
your punching bag.
    I’m going to go with advice I’ve given
before.