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Flirt. Or you can always try the honesty thing. More on
honesty later.
    You guys are friends, right? Does he
know you’re always there for him? Expect it? Don’t let him take it
for granted. Hang out with someone else. Don’t ditch him, but show
him you’re more than just his game buddy.
    Later, Hook-up Doctor
    SEBASTIAN’S RULE: Staples
    There are a few things that are kind
of like staples to getting the attention of who you want. Flirting
is one of them. The thing is, not everyone is down with that.
Flirting isn’t as easy as it sounds and you don’t want to come off
making him wonder what the heck you’re doing.
    Another is showing up where he is, but
making it obvious you’re not there for him. Don’t be rude because
that’s a total turnoff, but let him know you have a life outside of
him. Plus, you totally should have a life outside him. If you
don’t, that opens a whole crap load of problems you don’t want to
deal with.

CASE NUMBER THREE:
    Hookup Doc,

    This is going to be bizarre to you but
I have a huge crush on a guy that plays on my hockey team... Yes I
am a girl that plays on a guy’s hockey team. Obviously, I am
worried about the whole same team, awkward next day thing, but
where it gets weirder is this guy is younger than me. Just a year
but my friends think it is weird, and he doesn't take my advances
seriously... I actually like this guy, and I was raised by a raging
feminist so I really don't give a shit that he is younger, but I
need help getting him to take me seriously without throwing myself
at him.

    Older player

    Older Player,
    Seriously? You play hockey? That’s bad
ass!
    On the younger-guy-thing. It’s no
biggie. If your friends are tripping out, that’s their deal. And
the guy? He’s probably going to be stoked! I’m trying to figure out
how to say this without making myself and other guys look bad. I
break too many guy codes in this biz, but yeah…gotta do what you
gotta do. Anyway, a lot of guys might not admit it, but most of us
have pretty big egos. A lot of girls too, but again, most of you
probably aren’t real big on sharing that info.
    So yeah… egos are big and an older
girl being into you definitely strokes your ego, so that’s a good
thing. I have to say be sure you guys are on the same page though.
I told another girl who was worried that the guy had more
experience than her because he was older, so to be fair, I have to
tell you the same thing. It’s all good as long as you’re both in
the same place. Just like I told her not to let the guy push her
into anything, the same rules apply here. No taking advantage of
the age thing.
    Okay, now to the other part. How do
you get him to see you’re serious without throwing yourself at him?
TELL HIM. I know, I know. Girls tell me all the time how hard it is
to tell a guy she likes them (which is strange since girls usually
talk about feelings a whole lot more than us), but you have to go
there. Tell him you’re into him and see what happens. Plus, you
have an advantage, you play hockey. If he’s a jerk about it, just
kick his ass.
    That being said don’t go overboard.
Girls who can step up to the plate and tell a guy she likes them
are cool, but don’t be too desperate. Like you said, don’t throw
yourself at him or ask him how many kids you guys should have or
anything. That’s going to make him run for the hills.
    Hook-up Doctor

SEBASTIAN’S RULE: Honesty
    Okay, here’s another
Sebastian’s Rule for you. When I first started this Hook-up Doc
gig, I was big on games. Finding ways to get what you want by
playing games. If I’m one thing, it’s honest and I have to say that
sometimes, yeah, games do work. They often do get you what you want or what you
think you want.
    But…and I don’t admit this lightly,
but I’ve learned a thing or ten, too. Grown up a little bit, or
whatever. There are certain situations where games don’t work.
Actually, they have a way of getting you into a whole hell of a lot
of