awkwardly.
âBallet?â
âYears of it, but I was never that great at it. I was more into modern and jazz.â
âCool.â
I nodded. I nodded some more. âWell, I guess I should get going. Maybe Iâll see you around.â
âYeah.â We looked at each other, then the ground, then each other. We nodded and smiled. I was just about to turn to leave when he said, âHey, do you have plans for tonight?â
âNot really.â
âI was going to make spaghetti for dinner. Would you like to join me? I live just a few blocks from here.â
I couldnât believe it. After all my scheming and plotting to meet him, not only had we finally met, but heâd asked me out for a date. It was fate. We were meant to be. âThat sounds great.â I turned to go, then turned back. âIâm . . . Iâm a vegetarian so if you could leave the meatballs out of mine, that would be great.â I braced myself for him to say, âOh, why are you a vegetarian?â or make some kind of smart-alecky comment. Iâd been veggie since I was thirteen and Iâd spent most of my lifetime defending what was apparently a very threatening alternative dietary lifestyle to some people. But all he said was âCool.â
I was in love.
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F or us to meet like thatâwhat were the chances if destiny didnât mean for us to be together?
My heart soared all afternoon with the knowledge that I had found my soul mate.
The gods of destiny werenât around to help me make the right decisions about what to wear, however. As soon as I got to his place, I wanted to run home and change. He opened the door in a blue silk shirt, meticulously pressed black pants, and expensive black leather shoes; I was wearing a long loose cotton skirt and blouse. He looked like he belonged on a runway in Milan, and I looked like I belonged in the parking lot of a Dead concert selling beads.
Gideon didnât say much over dinner. I asked him a lot of questions, and he told me that, just like me, heâd grown up in Colorado and had lived in New York for a while. He was there for nine months before going broke. Heâd gone there to make it as a model, but it wasnât until he came back to Colorado that he started getting any work. He did mostly ads for local department stores. Even so, the pay, he explained, was unsteady, and heâd taken a job at the boutique. He didnât know anything about art, and he didnât have any experience in sales, but the owner of the boutique thought he had the right look.
âDo you like it, working at the boutique?â I asked.
âYeah itâs okay. Rich people, you know, theyâre a trip. They think nothing about dropping seventy grand on a canvas with some scribbles on it. The opening nights are fun. Afterward, I get to help Glenda, thatâs the owner, finish up all the wine and finger foods. Thatâs my favorite part.â
I spent the entire evening staring at him dreamily, awed by his beautiful, delicate grace.
âWhy are you smiling? Youâve been grinning like, all night.â
I couldnât tell him that it was because I was just so happy. âIt must be the wine,â I said.
âWell, have some more.â He grabbed the bottle and filled my glass. âYour smile is beautiful.â
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O ne year later we went to a justice of the peace and vowed weâd be together till death do us part. Two years after that, we got quietly divorced. There was no fighting, no arguing over who got what. In fact, we never argued during our marriage. But then we never really talked, either. My marriage with Gideon was a marriage of silence. I wouldâve welcomed fighting; I wouldâve welcomed any kind of communication at all. Iâd never felt so lonely as when I moved in with him. I was so lonely in my marriage that making the transition from being married to being single was easy. I