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careful, this will probably turn both of you on. (Just kidding — no need to be careful about getting turned on. If it happens, let it!)
    3. APPROACHING THE GOODIES
    Explain how much warm-up your body needs before you like intense focus between your legs. What do you prefer to happen and how extensively before your genitals are approached? Do you want your butt played with, your feet or back rubbed? Don’t hold anything back, whatever your preference. The clearer you are, the more likely you will get exactly what you want.
    4. SHOWING OFF
    Show your vagina or penis to your lover. Don’t be shy! Expose all of your parts, sharing your feelings about them. Demonstrate and describe how this part of your body likes to be approached with eyes, fingers, lips, etc. Women, show your lover how to touch your outer lips, inner lips, opening, pee hole, and the inside of your vagina. If you already know where your G-spot is and what kind of stroking you like there, show him that as well. If not, it will soon be time to experiment in an upcoming chapter.
    5. NEVER ASSUME
    If you’re in a long-term relationship, please don’t assume your beloved knows everything about your body — or anything for that matter. We bet there are things you don’t know yet yourself. The observer in this practice will surely learn something new, and you will too. Both of you should feel free to ask questions if something important is surprising or left out. Ask for more detail or clarification any time you’re confused. While one of you is fully exposed, the other should really take everything in. You both want the new information to stick with you.
    6. SWITCH
    Exchange roles so you both get a chance to reveal your innermost sexual desires and preferences. By the time you have both completed this practice, you’ll probably both be very turned on. Play, go for it, do what comes naturally. We never want you to miss an opportunity for a hot time together. After all, you can continue reading and learning later.
LOVEPLAY FEEDBACK
    There are ways to talk to your partner that can improve your loveplay, and you’ve no doubt discovered that there are some approaches you want to avoid. When you think about it, the exercises in this book are a perfect opportunity to play, practice, and communicate without judgment. Let’s take a look at how to make this work best.
    When you’re in the throes of lovemaking that’s not feeling as great as you’d like, you’ve probably already bypassed many opportunities for sexual communication. We don’t recommend calling a sudden halt to your play if you can avoid it. No matter how gently and diplomatically you confront it, interrupting pleasure can shock, sadden, and put down your lover — especially if he’s male and has an ego. (And who doesn’t?)
    If there’s something really awful your partner does once or repeatedly, talk it over when you’re not in bed. Wait until the next day and explain how important this is to you.
    Phrase your feedback around new wants and needs that you’re discovering about yourself. If it seems appropriate, demonstrate exactly what you mean. This is another opportunity for the How to Touch Me practice!
    Do your best not to indict your partner’s desirability or lovability. Never compare your beloved to former lovers. Make it clear that
this isn’t a black mark against a man’s masculinity or a woman’s femininity.
    So, schedule this discussion carefully. Be sure you have plenty of time to clarify and resolve the issue. If a person’s ego is involved, it may take more than one session before your lover feels okay about the feedback. Keep reassuring and loving him or her throughout the process.
SEXUAL COMMUNICATION TECHNIQUES
    Here are several techniques we recommend to help giver and receiver stay in close touch during loveplay or lovemaking.
    “Responsiveness” and the “Feedback Sandwich” are prime tools that receivers use to guide the pleasure they’re getting.
    “Yes/No