Gentlewoman: Etiquette for a Lady, From a Gentleman by Enitan O. Bereola Read Free Book Online

you’re dead and gone. You can’t get rid of it, but you can improve it. It’s your call.
    People hear words, but rely on action. It’s time to stop talking.
    Rule n ° 53 Selflessness : The true measure of selflessness is helping someone who can’t return the favor.
    Rule n ° 55 You can change the world faster than you can change a man . Some women will compromise with the idea that they can change a man down the line. Unless he’s in diapers, you won’t be changing him. You can’t raise an adult. You are guaranteed to always fail. Stop trying. Date what is; not what you hope will be. You’ll know it when you see it. You can’t change your man, but you can change your mind.
    Quit holding yourself responsible for an adult. Learn how to change a tire – Forget about changing a man.
    NOTE: When you focus on adding to us instead of changing us, we’ll want to change for you.
    Rule n ° 57 Punctuality : One of the most disrespectful acts you can commit is to have no regard for someone else’s time. It’s a lazy gesture that says: I value other things more than you. Set all your clocks fast to trick yourself into thinking it’s later than it is. You can plan ahead by preparing directions the evening before. Get ready in the mornings even if you don’t have plans. You never know what might come up. If you stay ready, you won’t have to get ready.
    Just don’t underestimate the power of time. When you think you have enough, it’ll pass you by in an instant. Don’t give into the illusion of idle time. Checking text messages, browsing the Internet, wrapping up work, etc. will eat up the clock. Always give yourself an extra 30-minute window at least.
    Unforeseen events can happen beyond your control causing you to be late. In this case, have the courtesy to call the person(s) waiting on you and give them a new estimated time of arrival.
    Being late isn’t the end of the world. Never put yourself or anyone else in danger just to be on time. That means no speeding to get there. It’s better to arrive late than dead.
    Rule n ° 59 Positive Element of Surprise: When you under-promise and over-deliver, you foster grounds for loyalty. Giving people better than what they expect is a good thing! It generally keeps them coming back for more. Apply this principle wherever it helps.
    Rule n ° 61 Common Sense : Assuming everyone knows about common sense suggests you have none. It’s a valuable commodity that’s free. You’re born with it. You either listen to it, or you don’t. If everyone knew how to use it, I’d be out of business.
    NOTE : The only way to know what someone is thinking is to have a conversation about it...with them.
    Rule n ° 63 When a grown man is interested – there’s no guessing game or fishing for answers…there’s no damn doubt about it . Live life and stop boggling your mind. If a confident man wants you, he’ll make the necessary moves to address you. If he doesn’t, he’s not serious or is uninterested. Get on with life.
    Rule n ° 65 Control Personal Habits in Public: That weird sound you make to scratch your throat; picking of the nose, spitting and even foul language should be limited in public places. The world isn’t your living room. Remember, good etiquette is rooted in consideration for your neighbor(s).
    Rule n ° 67 Pet Control: There’s a dog in my neighborhood whose owner thinks our lawn is a toilet. If I ever catch them two in action…well, let’s just say, they wouldn’t like it if I walked in their living room, grabbed a newspaper and helped myself to a bowel movement on their carpet. Sounds disgusting, right?
    Pet owners…control your pets! You must respect the personal space of non-pet owners. Not everyone thinks it’s cute when Dodo the dog does the deed.
    Rule n ° 69 Love Excessively : The world needs what you’ve got. Please don’t withhold your supply due to a few rotten people. Love is best displayed when given to those who don’t deserve it. Love is