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not their sex toys. The vibrator is so good at stimulating the clitoris that if you use it regularly, you may soon become unable to orgasm without it. That means you may be left unsatisfied during sex with your partner, and who wants that?
    The goal with any sexual relationship is to enjoy it together, not to enjoy yourself more than the relationship. If you are enjoying your hands-on experience too much, you have to figure out how to make a change-up or do it less frequently, just as men need to vary their masturbation techniques or use them less regularly to be less dependent on them.
    For instance, if you take a long time to orgasm, you can start masturbating as part of your foreplay and then have your partner join in while he’s getting ready to do his thing. This can give you both the satisfying experience you’re hoping for. And when you know what stimulates you and gives you the greatest pleasure, have a hands-on experience with your partner, directing his fingers or his mouth. Show him how to move them the way you move your own fingers. Demonstrate what positions work best. Most of all have lots of fun and laughter doing so.
    Trust me; the sex life you save will be your own!
    The U.S. Food and Drug Administration has approved only two products for OTC treatment of premature ejaculation. One is a lidocaine spray that’s available as a “male desensitizing” spray. The user has to spray it on his penis, rub it in, and then wait five to ten minutes for it to take effect. The other is benzocaine, an ingredient used in a liquid formulation for toothaches and also as a topical anesthetic. Again, it has to be rubbed on and then a man has to wait for five to ten minutes for it to work, but it’s easier to use than the lidocaine spray. (These products have no adverse effects for women having sex with men using them—except, perhaps, in affecting your ready-for-it-now mood!)
    To help men out, I’ve created the first benzocaine application in a wipe, called PreBoost ( www.preboost.com ). It can be applied easily and I consider it the most efficient way to not only treat premature ejaculation, but also to help these men enhance the sexual experience, at least long enough for their partners to be satisfied.
    Dear Dr. Fisch: Can Kegel Exercises Help Me with My Premature Ejaculation?
    Dear Dr. Fisch,
    No matter what, I can’t last more than a minute or so when I’m having sex. I read online that Kegel exercises can help. Is this true or just an Internet myth?
    Signed, Frustrated
    Dear Frustrated,
    I don’t blame you for feeling that way, as the average man has sex for five to ten minutes. But premature ejaculation is the number one cause of sexual dysfunction in men, and at one time or another, half of all men have to deal with it.
    I wish I could say Kegel exercises could help you, but they can’t. These exercises contract and relax the pelvic-floor muscles. They help women who have stress incontinence but don’t do anything for a man’s penis.
Juicy Fruit: Lubrication for Women
    We’ve talked about men’s ejaculation issues, so now it’s time to turn to women. As you probably know, when a woman is sexually aroused, the walls of her vagina secrete a clear, slippery fluid that facilitates intercourse. As with everything else about humans, there is a fairly wide range of normal for vaginal lubrication. Some women produce lubrication easily and copiously, while others take longer and produce a lot less.
    Staying “wet” is actually a big problem for many women. A study published in the February 2013 issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine reported that 95 percent of women don’t have enough lubrication to last during an entire lovemaking session, especially one that takes place over an extended time. (I was shocked when I saw that high number—and it takes a lot to shock me!) At some point, women may become dry. This can take sex from wonderful to “Whoa, stop.” It can really hurt. Who wants to have sex when